Wedding dresses are not wedding dresses, not white. What to wear for a wedding: outfits and uniforms, dresses and hats. Simple and humble

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Hello. Please tell me is it possible to sell a wedding dress? They signed and got married in it. I heard you can't sell a veil and shoes. And there are many contradictions about the dress. Thank you in advance

valentine

Valentine, you can act at your discretion with a dress, and a veil, and with other items of your wedding wardrobe. Some special church rules on this score no, and everything else is superstition or prejudice.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! Father, tell me, please, is it permissible for a wedding to wear a dress that slightly covers the knees, and with sleeves above the elbow? Is a wedding possible on April 27?

Nina

Nina, such "technical" moments, as well as the date of the wedding, must be discussed with the priest with whom you are planning to get married. I think, however, you are unlikely to have time to agree on the wedding on April 27.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, tell me, my husband and I want to get married in what clothes should we get married? Can I rent a wedding dress? Thanks.

Milan

Hello Milan. Can be rented. The dress should be light, strict, without a neckline and with long sleeves. The man, of course, is in a classic suit.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Good day! Please tell me, as far as I know, you can get married twice, and you can get married three times, but the third without a wedding, is that so? My friend says that you can get married only once in your life, the second time will definitely be unhappy, God will not give happiness to a woman or a man, if, after divorcing, a person decides to start a family again, she made such a conclusion from her situation with marriage. Can a woman wear white Wedding Dress, if she gets married or gets married for the third time? They say that in no case is it, otherwise you will be unhappy all your life, you can wear a dress of any color except white. And is it true that the groom cannot see the bride in a wedding dress before the wedding, otherwise the groom will be disappointed in the bride and the wedding dress cannot be put on just like that, for example, for a photo or something else? Or is it all fables and superstitions?

Ksenia

"About the white dress" - no comment, everything described is a gross superstition. The church blesses no more than three church marriages (this means, weddings), there is no question of registry office in the canons at all. Another thing is that there is no point in marrying many now even once. Too frivolous. But if a person repents for the mistakes of his first marriage, becomes a Christian not just in words, his next marriage may well be happy and saving. There are enough examples.

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Good day! From my parents (unfortunately, they are no longer there), there are wedding candles, rings and my mother's wedding dress. Do I need to light these candles, or just store them? And can the wedding dress be washed?

Marina

Marina. Wedding candles can be lit and stored - at your discretion. The wedding dress can also be washed.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father. During the wedding, namely, when we walked around the lectern, I lagged behind my husband and the priest, and they went ahead a little. Almost six months have passed, but I don't like to remember everything. I do not believe in omens, and I will not accept such. Every day I worry about my carelessness. Are such cases during a wedding not uncommon?

Maria

Hello Maria! All this is simply, let's say, "technical issues" associated with the splendor of clothing, and not related to the sacrament itself. It happens that witnesses step on the dress, and the veil falls to one side. Don't reproach yourself. Well, if your thoughts do not give you rest, I advise you to confess.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, I'm going to go to church for confession. I do not wear skirts, can I come in trousers, but put on a raincoat on top just below the knees?

Svetlana

Dear Svetlana, imagine that you came to a restaurant and told the doorman at the entrance: I do not wear evening suits, can I go into the hall in a quilted jacket, overalls and tarpaulin boots? Each place has its own common dress code. A cheap second-hand skirt costs about a hundred rubles, you can buy it especially for visiting the temple, I hope that you will come there more than once, but will visit the House of God more or less regularly. In addition, a dress and a skirt make a woman so beautiful that they should be, at least in small quantities, in any woman's wardrobe.

Archpriest Andrei Efanov

Hello! My husband and I got married on the day of marriage registration at the registry office, I was in a wedding dress. Can this dress be sold?

Helena

Elena, why can't you sell a wedding dress? If the things are good and expensive, and you can get some money for them, then, of course, the dress, without any doubt, can be sold. Before you sell a dress, you need to sprinkle it with Holy water, since when you change the owner and when you buy new things, you need to do this. In the prayer book there is a short prayer for the laity, and it is called "At the consecration of every thing", you can sprinkle the dress yourself, and then calmly sell it.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father! During her lifetime, she presented her friend with her dress, after some time she died suddenly. At the funeral, I saw that they were burying her in this dress! Her mother says that she did not know about it, and that it’s okay, because I gave it during my lifetime, and I was very scared! I don’t feel sorry for the dress, I’m afraid it poses a danger to me? Then her mother gave me her things, can I wear them? I didn't want to take, again out of fear, but I could not refuse. I know that a late friend would love to share, and if she sees us, she doesn't mind. Can you please tell me what to do? Maybe my fears are simply due to the great stress of losing my girlfriend, maybe I should go to church? Thank you in advance.

Helena

Yes, Elena, your fears are absolutely unfounded. Please, throw such superstitions out of your head: firstly, they have nothing to do with reality, and, secondly, they simply darken life.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, father! Explain, please, what is the reason for the rule of women wearing skirts in the temple and that it is not allowed to enter the temple in trousers? It is understandable that each gender has its own clothing. But even priests do not wear trousers and jeans in churches. And yet, what is the reason for the fact that women should enter with their heads covered, and men, on the contrary? I'd like to know very much. Thanks.

Ludmila

Lyudmila, in the beginning, let's immediately separate the spiritual vestments worn by priests from the usual secular clothes worn by the laity - the fact that priests do not go to services in suits or shirts with jeans is not an argument here.
And about the need to wear clothes appropriate for the floor, it is said in the Holy Scriptures: "A woman should not wear men's clothing, and a man should not wear women's clothing, for everyone who does this is an abomination to the Lord thy God" (Deut. 22: 5).
For the woman's head covered during prayer, please read in 1 Paul the Apostle to the Corinthians, chapter 11, verses 1 to 19.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Hello. There is one question regarding tradition. I heard from friends that unmarried girls it is customary to bury in a wedding dress. Is there such a tradition? What is it caused by? Is she Orthodox? Thanks in advance for your reply.

Alexey

Dear Alexey, this tradition, in my opinion, is religiously neutral and simply expresses the grief of those close to her that the deceased did not experience the joys of marriage and motherhood. It is not necessary to introduce it in those areas where there is no such tradition, but it is also not worth fighting with it, if there is no superstition around this rite.

Archpriest Andrei Efanov

Good day! I have a question: in what clothes should women visit the Temple, in skirts, or can they wear trousers? I myself have recently begun to visit the Temple and noticed that almost all women come in skirts, but there are also trousers and even tracksuits! Is there some kind of dress code for visiting the Church, or maybe you can "run" into the temple in a dressing gown (excuse the sarcasm, father)?

Irina

Irina, in Old Testament times, they were stoned to death for using clothes of the opposite sex. No trousers intended for women. In our godless, I must say, times both the clergy and the bishops reason like this: it is better to come to church in trousers than not to come at all because of trousers. But when attempts begin to "legitimize" this new type of clothing for women, an inflection begins. A woman should dress in clothes of the same gender: a dress or a blouse with a skirt and have a headdress. It is godly, femininely graceful, beautiful and holy. Moreover, it does not cause any temptation - and temptation in the Church is unacceptable.

Abbot Nikon (Golovko)

Good day! Can you please tell me if it is possible to sell the wedding dress in which you got married?

Tanya

Although the thought of this can cause superstitious fear, there are no restrictions on this matter. On the contrary, sometimes pragmatism is the best medicine for superstition.

deacon Elijah Kokin

Hello, father! Please tell me if a woman has to wear a skirt to church? I have always thought and believed that God first of all looks at his heart, so that it is open for communication, kind, filled with love, and what a person has come in is up to him to decide. Am I thinking right? Thanks for the answer.

Evgeniya

Hello Evgenia! A person who just crosses the threshold of a temple finds himself in a completely unknown world, living according to his own rules, which are not always clear to the "beginner". Among the first rules with which he gets acquainted is the requirement for appearance. These requirements in an Orthodox church (no headdress for men, a skirt and headscarf for women, a modest and tidy look for everyone) today is known to almost everyone. To our contemporaries, they seem outdated, testifying to inert, "illiberal" church thinking. "After all, God looks at the heart, and not at the outward appearance of a person!" they say. Church arguments seem unconvincing to them.
However, in the spiritual life of a Christian, everything matters: appearance, behavior, and inner dispensation. And nowadays, the requirements for appearance not only have not lost their significance, but also acquired a new sound.
Scripture says: "A woman should not wear men's clothing, and a man should not wear women's clothing, for everyone that does this is an abomination to the Lord thy God" (Deut. 22: 5). This was also the teaching of the Church Fathers: Tertullian, Saint Cyprian of Carthage, Saint Ambrose of Mediolana. Agree, clothes should correspond to gender, age and place, and most importantly - to Christian self-awareness.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello Father! Please tell me in one question. When I buried my mother, I dressed her in the old and ugly (unfortunately, I did not know about customs), and now my conscience torments me. I already bought a new beautiful outfit for her, but I don't know what to do with it. Tell me how to be.

Natalia

Do not worry, but it is better to give the new dress to someone close to your mother or simply to those in need as a reminder of her soul.

deacon Elijah Kokin

I bought a wedding dress, white with red flowers, my husband had a red shirt. I heard that the priest can refuse the wedding. Earlier in Russia, after all, young ladies in red dresses were married. Will they marry us now? I really want to get married.

Yuliya

Of course, the priest is unlikely to refuse a wedding because of the color of the dress, this is not stipulated anywhere. The main thing in the Wedding is not the color of the dress, but the very meaning of this Sacrament, which creates a new Christian family, you can find detailed information about it, including on our website, following the links http: // site / Arhiv / ?? cid = 2 & id = 264

deacon Elijah Kokin

Hello, father! I am tormented by one question. We divorced and debunked my ex-spouse 2.5 years ago. Lived together for almost 12 years. For almost a year now, we have had a trial because of the division of a joint house. I have experienced a lot during this time. I ask the Lord to admonish him to stop ex-husband do me harm. After the wedding, the dress and the ring were left. One day I decided to collect the rings that he gave and take to the church. I asked to decorate them there Miraculous icon Kazan Mother of God, whom I love very much and feel help from her. And then by chance I heard that you shouldn't give your wedding ring to anyone, especially to the Mother of God, otherwise I allegedly "got married" to her. I want a family again, I love one person. What do i do? Did I do something wrong? And what to do with the dress? I tried to sell it, but in six months - not a single person willing to buy it ...

Natalia

Hello, Natalia! I think that if you think well yourself, you will understand that "getting married" with Holy Mother of God you can't do it. Moreover, simply by giving the ring to decorate Her icon. Donated a ring - and thank God! Do not forget to turn to the Mother of God yourself with prayer. With your dress, you are free to do as you want.

Priest Alexander Gumerov

Hello, father, bless. My question is: is it possible to sell the wedding dress in which I got married in the church?

Olga

There are no ecclesiastical prescriptions and rules on this score, and put superstition aside and forget about them. Another thing is that for most women, a wedding, wedding dress is a symbol of a new life, purity of thoughts and desires, joy and love, which many strive to preserve as a memory of a joyful event. I hope this desire of yours is not dictated by something negative in your relationship with your spouse, and you are not going to divorce and scatter in different directions? Or are you planning to solve your financial difficulties in this way? In any case, think before you implement your plans, and I would advise you to save it, remembering one of the happiest days in your life when you look at it.

Priest Alexander Babushkin

Bless Father! I had the following question. Modern fashion is focused on immoral clothing. In this regard, I have difficulties in acquiring skirts and dresses of a decent length in the market (I live in a village). I like muslim clothes, long dresses, skirts. Can an Orthodox Christian woman buy and wear Muslim clothing?

Helena

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God bless you!

I do not quite understand what you mean by the term "Muslim clothing"? After all, not every one, sewn by the hands of Muslims, is at the same time a ritual, which is directly related to the religiosity of a person. Yes, in general, the clothes are Tatar, Uzbek - brighter than Russian, but it does not unambiguously imply wearing, for example, a burqa. Of course impossible Orthodox woman wear clothes that are directly associated with Islam (hijab, etc.). But, I think, most likely, the question is not worth it. You just have to work hard to choose the one that suits your taste or, as has been customary for centuries, to sew by yourself, not only for yourself, but also for the whole family. After all, the supposedly universal tradition of buying ready-made clothes has existed for no more than 50 years. And in rural life, little has changed over the years. Perhaps people ... Well, it's time to learn, at least in a small measure, what our ancestors were fluent in - sewing, knitting, cooking, in general - housekeeping. Very soon, when the neighbors eat exclusively products with the Doshirak brand and wear tasteless clothes of popular brands, your children will learn from you and rejoice: “Mom can do everything!” God's help to you.

Archpriest Elijah Shapiro

Good afternoon, I am writing to you for the second time and I really want to get an answer. Please tell me why the church is not open late in the evening, why it is impossible to come to the church at night and pray, why people are not allowed there, it turns out that it is almost impossible to talk to the priest, because he can do it only in the presence of other people ... And more one question - I will soon have a baby, and we plan to play the wedding on April 21, right after the end of the fast, without a wedding for now, and my grandmother alone advised not to play the wedding until radonitsa, she says you will not live on your own, and your children will not have a life , although all their life they knew that weddings were played on the red hill ... and how does the church relate to the fact that pregnant women wear a white dress and a veil, are there any prohibitions in this area? Thanks in advance for your reply, I really hope you can help ...
2. Forgive me, but I have one more question - I was baptized under the same name, and then for the sake of safety, apparently, I was baptized a second time, the church said that I had never been baptized, and the name according to my passport remained the same, now question - will such a sin affect me? I was little when this procedure was performed and did not quite understand, and now I don’t even know by what name to put a candle for my health, in the end I put two, on two names, but this is not true ... what to do?

Inna

Hello Inna, sorry for the delay in answering. Churches are usually open from morning to evening services. There is no such practice for the church to be open all day long. Even in monasteries where monks live and they don't seem to have to go home, the church is closed after the evening service. But this does not mean that God also ceases to hear our prayers - you can pray anytime, anywhere. As for the wedding, I think they may well meet you halfway, because white is not only a symbol of virginity, but also joy. As for the date of the wedding, you are right - traditionally they get married already, starting with Fomina's week (or "Krasnaya Gorka"), but you can postpone the wedding for one or two weeks. Now about Baptism. Of course, being baptized twice is unacceptable, but let's leave it on the conscience of those who did this to you for some superstitious reason. By our actions we do not force God to give us the grace of Baptism a second time. I am sure that what happened will not affect you in any way. So you can read both saints and, accordingly, pray to them and light candles, but you need to use the name that was given to you at Epiphany for the first time.

deacon Elijah Kokin

A modern girl is allowed to come to a wedding celebration in any color and style. So, short dresses above the knees are gaining more and more popularity during the warm season, and the classic white color is losing ground, yielding primacy to unusual shades of wedding dresses - purple, red and even black. These options will decorate the girl at the ceremony in the registry office, but if the bride wants to marry her husband, she will have to follow certain rules. Wedding dresses should emphasize the purity and innocence of the girl.

Dress for a wedding in an Orthodox church with a photo

The Orthodox wedding ceremony is an ancient tradition that requires compliance with the rules regarding the dress and the image of the bride in general.

The wedding dress should not be open. Open shoulders, arms, neckline, cutouts on the legs, and even more so a bare back are not suitable for a temple. Close-up wedding dresses with sleeves will look best. However, if a girl buys only one dress for all the events of the wedding day, and you don’t want to wear the closed version during the whole celebration, open shoulders can be covered with a lace bolero, jacket, scarf or long veil, and gloves can be put on your hands.
The length of the wedding dress should be below the knee. If a girl wants to show her beautiful legs, she will have to buy two dresses or purchase a convenient version of a transforming dress with a detachable skirt.

A bride can choose any material of a dress for a traditional wedding - brilliant satin, openwork lace, light chiffon, but an outfit generously decorated with beads and rhinestones will not look organic. This does not mean that the dress cannot be decorated at all - other decorative elements will be used here, for example, embroidery, a little pearls, and lavish draperies.
A fluffy dress looks beautiful, but during a wedding, a straight or slightly flared model is more appropriate. The rings that add volume to the skirt should be discarded, since this is simply inconvenient.
The train is a part of the garment that gives the dress a majestic look, but during the procedure of the sacrament of an Orthodox wedding, it will look out of place. The train is suitable exclusively for the Catholic rite. If you definitely want a dress with a train tail, you can take a closer look at those models where the train is fastened.
A headdress is an obligatory attribute of a wedding. To cover your head, a long graceful veil, an embroidered or lace scarf will do. The hat is also allowed during the ceremony, but it is inconvenient from the point of view that the crowns that the witnesses or the priest will hold over the heads of the future spouses can touch it.

The hairstyle should not be pretentious, too voluminous and complex. Modestly pulled hair or a cute little Malvinka will do.
A wedding is a reason to wear smooth, unadorned shoes with medium or low heels, because standing on stiletto heels for the whole ceremony is a real test for women's legs.
Bright makeup tones look as wild in church as a miniskirt, so opt for a calm, delicate nude makeup. Accents on red or burgundy lipstick are unacceptable; it should be pale pink, nude, or absent altogether. Lipstick can be easily replaced with golden lip gloss.
A pectoral cross is an important part of a wedding look, but it is better to hide it under clothes.

Watch a beautiful video illustrating the sacrament of the wedding in detail:

Traditional styles

The traditional style of a wedding dress provides for a straight or A-line silhouette, not too voluminous skirt, closed back, shoulders. The model must demonstrate the modesty of the bride, meet the church requirements.

With sleeves

A graceful wedding dress with sleeves looks elegant and restrained. Types of sleeves can be of different lengths and shapes - bell, tight-fitting lace or satin sleeve, flared models. Please note that gloves must be worn for short top sleeves.

Closed

Closed-back dresses are suitable for real shy women who take the wedding ceremony very seriously. A model that hides the chest, back, arms and neck is the best fit for a church ordinance.

Lace

Lace dresses will emphasize the delicate, fragile nature of the bride. A girl who chooses a dress for her wedding, decorated with lace, will not fail, because this material looks exquisite, rich and does not require other additional decorations. The outfit can be completely trimmed with openwork fabric or partially decorated with it. For example, a hem, sleeves, bodice decorated with lace look beautiful.

Simple

Simple, minimalistic dresses are perfect for wedding wear. These models can be chosen by girls who are not planning serious financial investments. Minimalism, modesty, simplicity of dress without finishing will emphasize the beauty of the face and spirituality of the bride.

For pregnant

Girls who get married during pregnancy need to pay attention to the silhouette. If the bride is in the first months, it will be possible to hide the tummy with the help of an elegant A-line dress. The Greek model with a high waist and a flared skirt is also suitable in the early weeks of the term, but if the fact of pregnancy becomes obvious, it will perfectly decorate the rounded shapes.

According to church canons, only an innocent girl can wear white, so pregnant brides need to take a closer look at other light colors of wedding dresses.

For full

The model of a dress for full girls needs to be chosen carefully, based on the characteristics of the figure. A Greek dress - as with pregnancy - will help hide any flaws in your figure, while the popular A-line balances a massive top with narrow, triangular hips. Those who have a figure " hourglass", You should pay attention to the" fish "style, which is suitable only for proportional shapes. A pear-shaped body type will adorn a dress that expands from the waist - it will hide full hips.

For the elderly

For older ladies who decide to get married, dresses are suitable that will hide the flaws in appearance that appear in adulthood. Women who want to hide age-related changes - uneven skin, age spots - should pay attention to closed graceful dresses, light capes. It is better to choose a color not white, against which all imperfections become obvious, but golden, cream, beige.

Colour

Modern brides often give preference to dark unusual shades, but the wedding procedure allows extremely light delicate colors - creamy, cream, blue, light pink, ivory.

White

The white outfit is a classic of the sacrament of the church, so a girl who chooses such vestments will not be mistaken. In addition to the symbolic meaning of white, it is also unusually beautiful in combination with tanned skin: brides who have already been on vacation and get a bronze skin tone will be able to receive an additional bonus from choosing such a dress.

Blue

A light blue wedding dress will suit a dreamy nature. The choice of this color should be approached with caution by brides with an autumn color type. See photos of blue wedding models below.

Other options

The church allows different color options for the outfit, but the main thing is that they are of a light shade. The choice of dress colors is huge, and this allows each girl to choose the right shade for her skin type.

Where to buy and prices

In order not to miscalculate, it is better to buy a dress in a special salon, where you can find a suitable style, try on different shades. After the purchase, specialized stores offer to sew an outfit to fit for free. Price wedding model depends on many factors: the complexity of finishing, embroidery, the number of draperies, material, cut.

A simple satin dress without trimming a straight cut can be bought cheaply, in contrast to a model decorated with lace and embroidery with draperies. Every girl will find an outfit that she can afford. The cost of a wedding dress starts from 6-8 thousand rubles, but the upper limit can be any, because it all depends on the wishes of the bride and the state of the wallet of her parents or groom.

Perhaps the wedding is one of the most significant, joyful and beautiful Christian rites, which with its sublime atmosphere evokes even those simply present at it a feeling of joy and love, not to mention the young people who decided to seal their union before God.

The wedding itself is defined as a divine service in the church, during which the Sacrament of Marriage is performed: a Christian marriage is blessed and consecrated. In an Orthodox marriage, each of the spouses must take their place. The husband should be the head of the family, responsible for the direction family life, for her well-being and strength. The wife, on the other hand, must build a family life, not allowing the daily vanity to destroy his spiritual foundation. To summarize what has been said, we can say that a woman is the soul of any family, and a man is a body.

The word “marriage” is of Slavic origin, and it means “to be together”. In the old days, a team of horses walking together in a bundle was called a marriage couple. According to church canons, after the conclusion of a church marriage, spouses are united "in one flesh", that is. become one being in their aspirations, determination of values, joy and sorrow.

From the time of Peter I until March 1917.
absolutely for all Orthodox inhabitants of the Russian state, only a marriage entered into in a church by way of a wedding was considered valid. In today's society, church marriage is not compulsory, because actually has no legal force, however, a huge number of newlyweds seek to register their union in the church. True, the motivation of all couples is completely different, some pay tribute to fashion, while others follow parental instructions. Still others consider it simply necessary for further family life, according to their inner convictions.

In this article, I would like to explain some of the issues related to this rite in order to help young people who are just thinking about a family to take the right steps.

When is the best time to get married?

More recently, most people living in Soviet society, in principle, did not think to get married, because religion was at that time in the "underground". But at the beginning of the nineties, her revival began, and with it such a ceremony as a wedding. And many couples began to include this ceremony in their wedding celebration in order to somehow diversify and embellish it. However, the understanding of the rite, unfortunately, was in a few, in principle, as it is today. Of course, today's couples are more enlightened in this matter, but most still do not understand the sacred meaning of the sacrament. For most, this is just a beautiful "supplement" to the wedding. Of course, the sacrament of the wedding is a very beautiful and bewitching action, shrouded in an aura of some kind of touching. And, of course, it cannot be compared with registration in the registry office. The very atmosphere in the church, the walls decorated with frescoes, many icons, burning candles everywhere - all this evokes a certain awe and awe in a person. But external attributes should not be taken as a basis. The defining moment should be those two people who consciously wanted to come here and get married.

If your couple wants to get married in church, try to approach this issue more meaningfully. Think carefully before taking this step, take your time. At the forefront should not be the beauty of the ceremony, but the obligations that the spouses take on. Civil marriage is officially regulated by the Family Code, which clearly defines all the rights and obligations of spouses. At the wedding, you make a promise to love each other all your life, to be patient and reasonable, only you give this promise to anyone who can condemn you for unworthy behavior in the future, but in fact, to yourself. You can always deceive others, but you can hardly deceive yourself. Take your time with your impulses, the desire to get married should “ripen in your mind”, become a necessity of your life, and not just one of the beautiful moments.

Many couples today combine official registration at the registry office and a church wedding on the same day. In my opinion, this is not an entirely correct decision in several respects. A wedding is, in principle holiday for two, calmness and serenity should be at its core, and not a noisy promenade of guests.

Another parameter is that this rite requires some preparation, and you already have enough trouble. True, here many object and say, they say, one deed more, one less, what's the difference? But it turns out that if you do everything according to the rules, then really there will be a lot of hassle.

In addition, the question of time arises, I mean that you should very correctly calculate where and how long you will be all the wedding day. One familiar couple, due to an unforeseen snowfall, managed to register, but was late for the wedding.

The other couple, on the contrary, everything went well, but there were complaints from the bride that it was difficult to put everything together in one day, not only in the wedding schedule, but also in the head. Not to mention physical fatigue , which will arise after such a busy day.

Therefore, it is quite reasonable and convenient to separate these two events at least on different days, and in some cases, years. True, even here there are objections from the young people, who say that if the wedding does not take place on the same day, then they will have no time later. In my opinion, this is all nonsense, because if you quite consciously decided to take such a step, then, in principle, no one and nothing can prevent you from taking it.

Another argument that was given to me in due time is that it is too costly to separate these two holidays. To this I would like to answer the following - as has already been said - "a wedding is a holiday for two" and, in principle, it is not accepted to invite a large number of people to it, usually the list of invitees includes only mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers and siblings and sisters. The wedding itself, together with all its constituent parts, will cost you about three, well, a maximum of four thousand (meaning a donation for the church, a towel, an icon, a candle). An outfit, with the correct, initial choice of it for registration, may not at all require the purchase of a new one, and if something needs to be purchased, it will only be accessories that also do not require significant financial costs.

The banquet can even be organized at home, because if you follow the rules and do not invite a large number of people, then it is quite possible for everyone to fit at one table at home. But even if you want to sit in a cafe all in the same narrow family circle, it will also not cost you too much. Anyway, can you imagine how wonderful it is when two completely different, but in spirit common holidays, and not one hectic day full of events remain in your memory.

How to dress for a wedding ?

If possible, the length should be "to the floor", the maximum allowance is a length not higher than the knee. Some brides are considering a dress with a train. Basically it is catholic tradition... In Russia, dresses with trains were not sewn, however, modern clergymen are unlikely to show dissatisfaction with this. Most likely, after the wedding, you can hear many complaints from the witness, since at the wedding itself it is quite difficult to hold the crown above your head and move without stepping on the train of the dress. Moreover, the bride, at whose wedding I was present as a witness, had a dress without a train, but quite voluminous and up to the floor. And during the movement I had to be careful not to step on it.

The wedding dress itself can be any, but preferably closed. The back, neckline and shoulders should not be open. Ideally, this dress has long sleeves, a shallow chest cut and a closed back. Although the sleeve can be short, the most important thing is that it covers the shoulders.

Often, young people plan both a civil marriage and a wedding on the same day, and here a rather difficult question arises for the brides. Either wear a closed dress at both events, or purchase two dresses for two events. However, this option can be very expensive for many. True, you should not get upset in advance, because there is always a way out. For example, an open dress can be complemented with accessories such as long gloves, a stole can be thrown over the shoulders, a lace bolero that can be removed immediately after the wedding, a beautiful openwork shawl or a special wedding cape. Do not be afraid to cover your arms and shoulders, you are unlikely to lose anything in your beauty; brides in this outfit look quite gentle and touching. In principle, you can do without all kinds of capes, if you have a long and fluffy veil, it will cover open areas of the body.

The dress in which they are married is not customary to give, sell, like christening gowns, all these things, as well as wedding candles and icons, are kept together.

It is well known that a woman must enter the Orthodox Church with her head covered. Therefore, when deciding on a wedding hairstyle and its decoration, this point should be taken into account. You should check with your priest in advance whether the crowns will be worn on the head, or whether they will be held by witnesses. from this moment your choice of headdress and hairstyle will depend.

The hairstyle for a wedding should not be high, many bouclips and other elements of it, which can be crushed by a scarf at a wedding, are excluded. The best option there is and remains a veil, tk. it allows the bride and her hairstyle to be comfortable and look great at the same time. Truth and the veil should not be too small, it should cover the top of the head. Whichever headdress you choose, try to fix it, otherwise during the ceremony it will certainly shift, and this will certainly interfere with you, and you will have to correct it every now and then.

It is not recommended for brides to wear fashionable shoes with large heels to their weddings, and this is not a matter of customs, but of the banal comfort of your feet, because during the entire ceremony you will have to stand for a lot of time. And it will be quite difficult to withstand them, and after the wedding you will not want anything, except for one thing, to get rid of the "blocks" as soon as possible. Therefore, the choice should be made towards shoes with a solid sole or with a minimum heel.

Makeup on the bride must be minimal amount... In addition, makeup should not be too bright, but most of today's brides, and without this clarification, prefer natural notes. The only thing to note is that women are forbidden to kiss a crown, a cross, an icon with painted lips, but this can be fixed by simply removing lipstick just before entering the church. Therefore, stock up on special means, both for removing it and for re-applying it. In general, naturalness should be visible in the entire appearance of the bride.

The groom, on the other hand, should look serious at the wedding, so a formal suit is just right for this occasion. Of course, the preferred colors, as in the case of the bride, are light, but in relation to the grooms there are no strict rules in this regard. Of course, casual sportswear, as well as denim, is not a suitable outfit for a wedding. The groom should not be wearing a headdress.

The invited guests must also comply with a number of requirements. For women, headdresses, closed-type clothing are required, the presence of women in dresses and skirts is desirable, but many parishes do not prohibit trouser suits. All guests, without exception, must wear their own crosses on this day without fail, including, of course, as you understand, witnesses and young people.

Best regards, Irina Kravchuk.

Choosing a wedding dress is not easy. It is important not only to choose a dress that suits the appearance of the bride, but also to stay within the strict framework of church requirements. But Orthodox traditions do not oblige to choose a necessarily boring and too simple dress, because there are many acceptable variations.

An increasing number of couples choose a church wedding after registering at the registry office- someone because of a fashionable trend, someone - to please parents, and someone - because of their own deep faith.

It should be understood that a religious sacrament is not just beautiful decorations. This is the creation of a strong spiritual bond between husband and wife, which cannot be broken in principle. Therefore, you can take a serious step only when you are confident in your chosen one., your compatibility and the fact that this is the same person with whom you are ready to spend your whole life, because the procedure for debunking in church law does not exist.

The bride's appearance is no less important. Unlike a mundane wedding, it requires adherence to certain rules. must be chaste and pure, because at the symbolic level, she plays the role of the Church, which Christ takes as a spouse in the image of the bridegroom.

Inadmissible:

pretentious, too bright, dark details;
excessive luxury;
emphasized sexuality - bare hands, knees, deep neckline;
uncovered head.

Of course, there can be no question of any trouser suits, jeans or mini-skirts. The bride must be in a dress, and by all means closed and long (below the knee). also should be used with extreme caution. Let's say a light, unobtrusive nude, only slightly hiding imperfections.

Important! The wedding ceremony is spiritual, which means that purity of thoughts and beauty of the soul are more important than the body.

In no case should you paint your lips, neither with a light gloss, nor long-lasting lipstick. During the sacrament, you have to kiss the crucifix and the image, so the remaining trail can become an extremely unpleasant moment that spoils the ceremony. In addition, a strict priest may simply not give you sacred things, seeing bright lips, without understanding how super-resistant cosmetics are.

What should it be?

A miniskirt in church walls is definitely out of place: the hem should at least cover the knees. Many brides choose a floor-length dress - this is the most chaste and very beautiful option, emphasizing the quivering femininity of the bride and the general sacredness of the moment. This length suits almost everyone, except, perhaps, short, full girls. It is better for them to look at a shorter skirt - to the middle of the calf.

As for the train, this magnificent element, first of all, is rather inconvenient. They will stand behind you with crowns that can accidentally step on the delicate fabric. If you really want something beautiful, then choose a model with a removable accessory that fastens with hooks, buttons or ties. Secondly, remember that this train is an attribute of the bride, so if you are getting married in an Orthodox church, then it may seem inappropriate, although the church does not impose a direct ban on trains.

The style of the dress may vary. Only emphatically revealing outfits will not work - with a deep neckline, open back, shoulders or arms, too tight or shiny.

Better to choose a modest one. It is better to refuse unnecessarily puffy skirts on hoop rings, but petticoats are quite acceptable.

The decor should be modest but graceful - lace, hand embroidery, beads.

Dress material may vary... Delicate silk, shining satin, and royal velvet will do. Lighter, airy options - organza, chiffon, tulle - are also possible, but make sure that the dress is not overly fluffy. There are many candles in the church, and synthetics are easy to light up.

If the wedding is scheduled for one day with official registration, at which you would like to be in a more open dress, then transformer models with a detachable fluffy skirt, as well as shawls or capes covering the shoulders, will come to the rescue during the wedding.

The color of the outfit, contrary to popular belief, does not have to be pure white. Moreover, canonically, this option is only allowed for innocent girls, although now this rule is no longer so jealously observed.

If you want to stick to traditions and rules, then pay attention to gentle undertones - ivory, champagne, cream, other soft variations of white. Any other light shades are also allowed - pink, blue, golden, green, lilac. It is important that the color is not too bright or dark. You will have to give up dark chocolate or purple in any case, otherwise there is complete freedom of choice.

Folk omens

The ancient and sacred rite is surrounded by many superstitions. How to treat them is your choice.

Important! The Orthodox Church considers such beliefs to be sinful and does not approve, but folk wisdom does not arise from scratch.

In particular, the signs say the following about the wedding dress:

The dress must be new, and even the bride herself can try it on only once. No long admiration in front of the mirror or selfie on Instagram!
Part of the outfit must be borrowed- a ribbon, a string of pearls, a brooch. In case of trouble in a new family, relatives and friends will definitely help to overcome adversity;
Even the best girlfriends or sisters should not be allowed to try on the dress. otherwise they will "try on" the bride's happiness;
The longer the hem and veil, the longer family happiness will last;
Gold elements on the dress - to luck and wealth in the family;
The stronger the fabric from which the outfit is sewn, the closer and kinder the relationship between the daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law will be;
You cannot choose separate models consisting of a skirt and a corset, otherwise the family boat may split into two halves;
The groom should not see the bride in the dress immediately before the ceremony., the more it is forbidden to choose an outfit together;
After the wedding, the dress should be carefully stored and not given to anyone in the hands of. You can't wear it again or sell it - it's your symbol. happy life and protection from evil.

Fabric and finishing

Almost as much depends on the choice of fabric as on the style.

Silk wedding dresses look great. Natural material, the density of which is ideal for creating draperies, and at the same time breathable, gentle, with a noble delicate shine, suitable for a bride of any size and age.

Atlas is an extremely common material, very beautiful both in flowing form and in folds. The downside is a rather bright shine, so it is best to choose this option for slender brides.

Lighter, airy materials like chiffon, tulle or organza require a dense lining in a wedding dress. However, on the sleeves or neckline, such draperies will look absolutely charming, without violating church rules.

Delicate lace, which has many patterns and shapes, is great both for decorating an outfit and for its upper part as a whole, but with a lining.

Length

Mini-skirts, as mentioned above, are under the strictest prohibition, and it is unlikely that the bride herself will want to unnecessarily strip herself at such an important, exciting moment of taking an oath of fidelity to her beloved person before God.

Otherwise, the church does not regulate the length of the hem. Perhaps as a strict midi, the main thing is that the knees do not peep out from under the fabric, and maxi to the floor, as well as all intermediate options.

Remember that it is most convenient when the hem rises 2-3 centimeters above the floor, taking into account your shoes. This will definitely prevent you from stepping on and tearing your dress.

Color: white and alternatives

The white color of the wedding dress is traditional, recommended for innocent girls to choose, although this rule is allowed to be forgotten. Snow white looks great on swarthy or tanned brides, but older ladies with a curvaceous figure should avoid it.

Beautifully blue dress, because the color represents heavenly grace and purity. This outfit will suit blondes, as well as romantic, dreamy girls. Be careful with heavenly hues if your color type is fall.

Others are possible. color solutions : from various shades of white (cream, beige, champagne, ivory) to various tones of the light spectrum (pink, green, lilac).

Important! Dark tones are prohibited - black, brown, purple, as well as too bright and acidic colors.

The color red stands apart - on the one hand, it is too aggressive for a delicate wedding look, and on the other hand, it is extremely popular and is historically correct, because a wedding dress was just scarlet several centuries ago. If the choice fell on red, we recommend that you ask the priest who will marry you for approval.

Styles - evening and non-wedding with photos

Closed, chaste models of a simple cut are classic, but there are many other options for every taste and shape. Be sure to choose an outfit that fits perfectly on the figure, hides flaws., because modesty does not mean at all the need to look elegant enough.