If you dreamed about ballet, it means that in real life you tend to scoff ...
Yesterday I bought a movie that I wanted to watch for a long time ...
Didn't disappoint ... On the contrary ... I am very impressed ...
I risk touching upon a provocative topic for many ... - Nymphets ... Lolitoks ...
Film Lover. The lover. L "Amant
Director Jean Jacques Annaud - Remember "The Name of the Rose", "Seven Years in Tibet"? - That's his too.
Film prizes:
Oscar Best Cinematography, Japan Film Academy Award for Best Foreign Film, French Cesar Award for film score.
A fifteen-year-old girl is played by British film actress Jane March / Jane March Horwood
Colonial Vietnam.
French colonies in 1929.
The association with the film "Indochina" is very strong. Who has not watched - look. "Indochina" with Catherine Deneuve is a beautiful, tragic film. But, for all that, these are two very different films.
Yellow Mekong River .... Moist Heat ..... Opium Smoke.
The noise of tropical showers and Saigon on a sultry afternoon ...
She is ... poor. White .. Frenchwoman. She is 15.
He is .... - rich ... Yellow ... Chinese. He is in his early 30s.
The bed scenes are frank, aesthetic, beautiful ...
The criminal secret connection.... The social gulf ...
Love ... is doomed in advance.
The film is based on the autobiographical story of Marguerite Dura / Marguerite duras ru.wikipedia.org/wiki/%D0%94%D1%8E%D1%80%D 0% B0, _% D0% 9C% D0% B0% D1% 80% D0% B3% D0% B5% D1% 8 0% D0% B8% D1% 82
Nymphet is a teenage girl with clear and attractive signs of early puberty, not yet completed, not finished.
The term was first introduced by Vladimir Nabokov in the novel "Lolita". With the light hand of Nabokov, the word "nymphet" has entered modern dictionaries, has become an international concept.
Viktor Erofeev, author of the introduction to the first edition of Lolita in Russia, writes:
"Russian literature rarely touched on erotic themes. It remained shy and chaste. But these problems cannot be left in the shadows. After Freud, it is just as senseless to deny the important role of eros in human life, as after Marx to deny surplus value.
It is known that in the 18th century there were young people in Germany who, after reading The Sorrows of Young Werther, committed suicide. You can also read "Crime and Punishment" in such a way as to find an example to follow in Raskolnikov.
But the number of old women-pawnbrokers killed, as well as young children being corrupted by maniacs, has an extra-literary nature, and to insist on the opposite means to insist on the danger of culture itself, which, in fact, is fraught with the most monstrous rampant passions and ignorance. "
And here is the statement of the famous Russian writer Andrey Bitov about "Lolita": "No matter how you react to this book from the first time, you will remember it more than once - both the book and the girl - as if you burned your own palate with boiling water. Think about the author with adoration. and dislike: how is it possible to write such a thing ?! "
"Lolita" has become a bestseller in many countries around the world. Everyone who reads this book will be able to better understand, no matter how trite it sounds, in himself, in the world, in other people. sexadvice.ru/books/0/46/
Russian literature and erotica ...
Soviet literature, films and erotica ... - The concepts are not compatible.
In the Soviet Union during our youth, as you know, there was no sex at all.
Hype ..... Yes ... as much as necessary .. But not sex.
I jumped out to get married, barely waiting for 18 years to leave home.
My child will soon be 18.
What, interestingly, my mother imagined about my knowledge ... And in general, whether she imagined anything ... It's still a mystery to me. Where did this child come from when I never even spoke of cabbage and storks? The topic of sex and all its manifestations were absolutely taboo in our house.
As a rule, parents are afraid of this awakening sexuality in children and do not understand what to do about it ...
Photo by Bharat Sikka for Italian Marie Clair 2006.
He worked as a photographer in India before deciding to study at Parson's School of Design.
It is safe to say that harmful young lolita nymphet rustic, always nasty young lolita nymphets girls of ordinary city, if only because the girls have much fewer opportunities to find a guy in the village, and everyone wants women's happiness, and therefore, young lolitas village nymphets always cling more rigidly to any opportunity to lasso any male that gets in their way and push him to yourself under the heel, if possible.
Here is Lilka, insidious young lolita nymphet, having finished the seventh grade, she simply could not find a place for herself in the summer because of melancholy, heat and not incomprehensible desires that begin to appear at this age not only among young nymphet lolitas, but also among boys.
Lilkina's mother, single, one might say, was lucky and in the city she found herself a man of forty, divorced Uncle Vova, who had nowhere to go. The man was not bad, he worked, but he drank, and therefore my mother constantly cursed with him and tried to set him on the right path.
Uncle Vova admitted his guilt, knelt in front of his mother in the morning, promised constantly that this would not happen again and begged him to forgive. A compassionate mother, tired of loneliness, forgave the man, and after a couple of days he got drunk again and in the morning, again knelt.
Lilka constantly spied on and spied on how in the mornings a healthy man, Uncle Vova, was humiliated, standing on the veranda in some panties in front of her fragile mother on her knees and experiencing some strange itching in the lower abdomen and a slight dizziness, like from champagne. But once, something happened that changed the whole future life of the young lolita nymphet Lilka.
That evening, Uncle Vova showed up completely drunk and without realizing anything, he even hit or pushed his mother when she started scolding him, and in the morning after that, Uncle Vova did not get off with just kneeling.
The angry mother Lilkina brought a piece of garden hose from the yard, tore the rubber band and pulled off the family panties from the peasant and ignoring the pitiful babbling of the unfortunate naked peasant and his pleas, she finished his butt point with a hose so that it soon turned not even red, but crimson like the sun at sunset, and Uncle Vova himself burst into tears in front of a woman like a snotty kid.
At this moment, clinging to the crack in the door ajar to the veranda, the young lolita nymphet Lilka even whined from surging feelings and let a small puddle on the floor, which she tried to smear with her foot. The picture of Uncle Vova's upbringing and flogging by his mother was so overwhelmingly incredible that it was imprinted in the brain of young Lolitka probably forever, and at that moment she herself, most of all, wanted to be like her mother and just as strictly and ruthlessly as she did, to bring up the nasty males who do not obey women and do not keep their masculine words.
And while Uncle Vova was sobbing, kneeling naked in front of his mother and stroking his soft place that was burning with fire with his palms, a cunning plan ripened in the small head of the young lolita nymphet Lilka.
After all, she more than once noticed how Uncle Vova threw jambs on her bare legs, on panties flashing under a short sundress, and even teased the unfortunate man constantly with her not yet ripe charms, taking insidious poses or lifting her legs up to her head in front of Uncle Vova sometimes when mothers were nearby did not have.
She also knew that the man, unable to withstand such an intensity of passions, drilled a hole in the summer shower adjacent to the wooden shed and spied on young Lolitka constantly when her mother was not there, if she went to this summer shower to swim. This was a real crime for which Uncle Vova had to pay.
After all, the uncle of young Lolitka Lilka, a high militia rank from the district, immediately warned the peasant that if he dared to himself any liberties with regard to his young niece, he would immediately lose his masculine characteristics completely and Lilka herself, she heard this male conversation, and therefore decided to forge the iron while it is hot and to take the bull by the horns when my mother went to work, and she ordered Uncle Vova to clean the floors in the house and on the veranda.
The insidious Lilka did not want to miss such a moment, and therefore, quickly jumped into the bedroom, put her wet panties under the pillow and ran to the veranda, where Uncle Vova was already in his underpants, sobbing sometimes from pain apparently and humiliation, washed the floor.
You, not a good person, Uncle Vova, said Lilka, sitting down on the trestle bed so that the short sarafan would rise above the waist. It was a trap into which the man easily fell, not wanting to.
Why did you suddenly decide Lilechka ??? - Uncle Vova asked plaintively and turned his head in her direction. He turned and froze with a doormat in his hands, since the hem of Lilkin's short sarafan was much higher than the waist and the young insidious nymphet Lolitka herself did not seem to notice, despite the fact that her panties were lying under the cushion in the bedroom.
And because Uncle Vova, you constantly stare where you shouldn't and make me blush ...!
What are you, Lilechka ...! How could you think that !!! I treat you like a dear father - the man got scared and trying not to even look towards the young lolita nymphet who shamelessly sat down in front of him, almost in Eva's costume ...
And you drilled a hole in the summer shower to spy on me, too, like a father ??? Do you know what will happen to you when I tell Uncle Kolya everything ...?
Unhappy Uncle Vova turned pale, then turned green and seemed to begin to realize the full horror of his situation. Uncle Kolya, with his cops, as if he would get him out of the ground and deprive him of male signs at the moment, there was no doubt about that ... And therefore, without thinking twice, Uncle Vova, who turned green with horror, instantly fell on his knees in front of the insidious lolita and with tears in his eyes began to beg her not to tell Uncle Kolya and his mother about his pranks and about the hole in the soul, which he plugged with a bitch, so that it would be imperceptible ...
Tears and lamentations of Uncle Vova for the shameless lolita did not make much of an impression, as did the fact that an adult man was crawling in front of her on his knees in his underpants. She smelled blood, and therefore wanted to continue the banquet at any cost.
Okay, Uncle Vova !!! If you want, I will punish you myself, just like my mother just now, but promise that you will obey me and buy me gifts, sweets, ice cream and chocolates ...
I promise Lilechka !!! I swear what you want !!! that I will do everything so that you and your mother feel good. I will even give up drinking - Uncle Vova came to life, already feeling that his reproductive organs could remain with him.
Well, then, right now and let's start, the insidious Lilka smiled carnivore, licking her lips and bending down low, pulled out a garden hose from under the trestle bed, which her mother threw there after she whipped Uncle Vova in the morning on an adult.
Unhappy uncle Vova, barely looking at the hose, understood everything, whined doomed, realizing what awaited him, but did not dare to object and turning his back to Lilka, sobbing his panties down to his knees.
Yes, take them off, Uncle Vova, so that they don't interfere ... And bend down lower, otherwise I am less than mother and it will be inconvenient for me to flog you.
That's it, great !!! - the insidious lolitka Lilka praised the man when Uncle Vova carried out her order, staggering out of his panties and bent down low, thrusting out his crimson buttocks, so that it would be convenient for her to flog him.
And ask for forgiveness ??? - Flushed Lilka snorted when, after the execution, sobbing from humiliation, Uncle Vova tried to sneak out naked from the veranda ... Forgotten what ???
No Lilechka, I haven't forgotten…. How is it possible - uncle Vova stammered and turned around and fell down in front of Lilka, who sat down on the trestle bed again, on his knees, stretching his arms out at the seams.
And the young lolita nymphet, who was trembling for a long time from an excess of impressions and feelings, at that moment suddenly felt sweetly dizzy, shameless eyes rolled back and she, leaning back on the bedspread, groaned strangely like a wounded animal ...
Here is an infection - thought Uncle Vova, who was kneeling on his knees ... She catches a buzz, the green toad ... But he did not dare to get up from his knees and sadly waited for the green toad to come to his senses and finally let him go.
So strange and unusual, began new life for the unfortunate uncle Vova and for the young lolita nymphet, who had many adventures and impressions ahead.
“My dad is raping me, help me,” a puny creature, a teenage girl, stood in front of a policeman in the duty unit of the “Savelovsky” police station, modestly looking down.
The young victim's name was Olya Krolikova. She came to the police station with her father's closest friend, 42-year-old Valery. The man confirmed: Olga's father is a vile pervert. However, it soon became clear that Valery could not be objective. Olga admitted to the police that the volunteer defender was also close to her ... As a result, the operatives detained both Olya's father and his bosom friend. They were accused of having both sex with a youngster for a year and a half. However, they were immediately released on recognizance not to leave.
“MK” decided to sort out the shocking family drama.
The brother loved the girl
Old street in the area of \u200b\u200bthe Savelovsky railway station. Here houses are buried in greenery, and linen is still being dried in the courtyards. Grannies are sitting on benches at the entrance, who, better than any district police officer, will tell what kind of people live in the neighborhood.
Rabbit? Strange family ...
And further in detail. Father - Krolikov Alexander - all the time at work, unsociable, biryuk. Households are afraid of him like fire, his wife and daughter are constantly bruised. As soon as something goes wrong, the elder Rabbits climbs to fight. And his fist is heavy, and he himself weighs 120 kilograms.
Mother Maria is truly blessed and is scared to death of her husband. There are two children. The elder brother Dima grew up as a bully, but for several years he has not been heard or seen. How he disappeared. “Olya is the most normal in this family.”
For the time being, Olga was a pet at home. Even a torn off, Dimka took care of his sister, in childhood he was busy with her all the time. And then something broke in the relationship between brother and sister.
“Mom, my brother pesters me, demands that we do bad things with him,” 11-year-old Olga once burst into tears.
According to her, the nightmare had been going on for six months. The little girl could not be alone with her misfortune and, not knowing how to protect herself, told everything to her mother.
“Do not even think of complaining to your father, otherwise Dima will beat you and me,” that's all that Olya heard in response from her mother.
Only two years later terrible secret incest reached the ears of the elder Krolikov. Alexander passed a harsh sentence: “I have no more son”. The young lover was exiled to the house of his wife's parents and even his name was no longer pronounced aloud.
But after Olin the tormentor disappeared from the house, the exemplary girl suddenly changed her behavior.
She on the street did not let a single guy pass by, - recalls a neighbor. - I called everyone I met, offered to meet. She is generally obsessed with sex. She told such details and obscenities that even me, an adult woman, was uncomfortable ...
Olya came to confide in her peer and neighbor Masha, her only friend. “You shouldn't have sex! - she taught her. “You can't even imagine how much you are losing!”
She completely tortured my daughter with talking about orgasm, erotic caresses and more. But my Masha is still quite a child, inexperienced in all this filth! - the neighbor of the Krolikovs complained to us.
It was Olya who confessed to Masha that she had an over-grown admirer - a friend and peer of her father's, Uncle Valera. “It was her birthday, we look - there is a man with a huge armful of roses, what kind of relationship he has with a snotty girl!” - the tenants are perplexed.
But in the yard, the girl was sorry: the whole neighborhood knew about her brother-in-law. And then Olya often appeared on the street with purple bruises. Which she got from her father.
Olga more than once, in tears, ran to the neighbors: let me spend the night. But none of the tenants wanted to be extreme and interfere with the strange relationship of a strange family.
Olya found "protection" from an angry dad at ... Uncle Valera. She was only 14 years old when she appeared on the doorstep of her father's friend's apartment with a suitcase.
Father's friend is my friend ...
Valery Samoshin knew Olga from birth. He has known her father since the age of 15. They were inseparable: they studied together at a vocational school, entered the institute. Later, they were friends with families.
I was the closest friend of this family, but I could not even imagine what was happening behind the closed doors of their apartment, Olga confessed to me that day that her father had beaten her the day before, and then he had also raped her, '' Uncle Valera told us. - For a long time I could not believe that my best friend is capable of this! Although I was always embarrassed by the overly tender attitude of the father to his daughter: for example, Alexander could start kissing Olya on the lips at a party or a cheeky hug.
Yes, Rabbit is a friend. But the truth is more precious.
According to Valery, paternal tenderness gradually grew into lust. If at first Alexander limited himself to playful strokes of his daughter, then later he allowed himself to “caress the girl with his hand between her legs”. The impetus for these erotic flirting, of course, was the example of the eldest son. “Olya told me that her father raped her for the first time in the evening,” continues Valery. - First beat, and then fucked! The next morning the scenario was repeated. It was then that she came running to me for salvation. "
Valery immediately rushed to sort things out with a friend.
However, Olga continued to complain to her neighbors about the harassment of her daddy, preoccupied with sex:
Mother already knows. But she is afraid to enter the room when my father is alone with me.
The fact that Olga's mother allegedly knew about what was happening was confirmed by Valera.
Maria herself confessed to me that she saw her daughter and her husband naked together. But her husband explained to her: her daughter asked to “show something like a man”. And there really was nothing between them ...
Olya begged her mother to protect her, and in response she heard scathing: “So what, let him fuck. It’s better to do this than to live without a father ... ”This is how the girl described what was happening to Valera.
Samoshin advised to contact the police - Olya brought her first statement to the “Savelovsky” police station at the end of July this year. But the case was not given a course. Olya Krolikova soon voluntarily took the statement. And she left, like all normal children, to the camp - after all, the school holidays were in full swing.
Whom I begot, that I have
The girl just showed off, made up everything about me, - says the father of the family, Alexander Krolikov. “In the end, she agreed that she had done something stupid,” and withdrew the statement.
Even in the voice of the Rabbits, it is completely different from the monster described by the neighbors. A modest, intelligent person. In one of the Moscow research institutes, where Alexander works as an engineer, he has a good reputation. “Krolikov does not communicate much with employees,” the personnel department explained to us, “but he has the following specificity of work - all the time one-on-one with the devices. Executive, professional in his field. An ordinary person, like everyone else ... "
Oli's father sincerely assures us that there is peace and tranquility in their family now. The girl is resting in the country, he came out of vacation - and is sure that soon the case against him will be dropped. There can be no talk of any domestic violence, according to Alexander.
Yes, I hit Olka a couple of times with a belt, she got me with her debauchery, - Alexander Krolikov confessed to the "MK" correspondent. - Who will like that daughter fucks everyone right and left? And he also talks about it. But sexually - I did not touch her with a finger, this is complete nonsense.
Alexander seems to be quite sane and not at all stupid man.
And only in one thing he was jammed: he blames his ex for molesting his only daughter best friend... “Valera betrayed me, such an impudent person. He even offered money to sleep with my child with impunity. You understand, the girl is only 15 years old - gave a couple good gifts, and it's in the bag. I personally don’t want to know him anymore - I immediately threw out all his coordinates ”.
Saying goodbye, Alexander asked our daughter not to bother us:
You must understand, the poor child has already been dragged through interrogations. She now dreams of only one thing - to live in peace at last.
After the case was made public, Olya's mother stopped communicating with strangers. She shouted through the closed door:
I won't tell you, I'm sick - I have it ... I have a tumor!
Don't even try to find contact with her, - the tenants of the house stunned us. - The weird woman. They say she barely finished her studies until the eighth grade and never worked.
Unlike her mother, Olya studies at four and five. Teachers appreciate her perseverance and seriousness.
The girl is very good, - the director of Olya's school assured us, - recently took second place in Moscow in drafts. Only not very sociable: she has no friends, she walks everywhere alone. We know that things are not going smoothly in the family, so its success is especially surprising.
This summer, by the way, Olya took the documents from school and entered college. Will study to be a secretary-assistant.
Caring father. Sick mother. A noble friend of the family ...
Tango threesome
It turns out that now all the heroes of our story are innocent - all except for the little worried Olya. Sooner or later, law enforcement or judicial authorities, we hope, will determine the degree of guilt of all the heroes of this dirty story. But the girl's broken fate cannot be glued together ...
I was with Olya when she delivered the first statement and asked the investigator to help the girl. But he was only interested in one thing: what a relationship I have with her! - Valery complained to us. - Between us, of course, there was no closeness. In the end, my wife can confirm this too. She, by the way, warned me: "Do not get involved in someone else's family, you will see: Olga and her father will make up, and you will be guilty!" I was ready for trouble, but that I would be accused of having sex with a child, I did not expect that! What am I, some kind of monster, or what? I myself have a child ... Well, I felt sorry for Olya, well, I could kiss in a friendly way on the cheek. But to sleep with her - it was not. I am not guilty of anything, I speak as if in spirit!
Nevertheless, Olya was sharing shocking intimate details with her neighbor with might and main: “Dad and I went to Valera's dacha and slept all together on the same bed. And I was without a bra! "
It's a pity for the girl, these two dogs completely shifted her brains to one side, - the neighbors were indignant, but for some reason, unconditionally believing in Olya's stories, none of them tried to defend the rights of an innocent child.
Or maybe there was no crime? The girl's imagination just played out too much: she complained to uncle Valera about her dad, and dad about her uncle ... So both of them turned out to be involved in the same criminal case.
However, family friend Valera thinks differently: Olga's father is able to get out of the water, because he still keeps his wife and daughter in fear:
He beat Olga with wire, all the priest was bruised. She showed me herself. And she took the application, because he threatened to bring his brother Dima home.
- And why does he blame you in connection with his daughter?
Sasha knew how Olya treated me - I became the closest person to her, except me, and there was no one to protect her from him.
One way or another, but now the matter has taken a new serious turn. Details of the triple incest hit the press. The Rabbit family became famous. But only a long-term psychological examination can say that this is perverse girlish fantasies or a terrible family drama.
All names in the material have been changed.
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Unfortunately, there is no age limit for objectification. In the new material, MAKEOUT wants to draw attention to one of the most vulnerable groups - children.
© Still from the movie “My Little Princess”, Eva Ionesco, 2011
We exist in a cultural field that translates the objectified image of a woman as something traditional, familiar, normal. Because of the ubiquity of this practice, objectification is often overlooked or criticized.
From childhood, a woman is taught to think that her self-realization is limited to areas in which it is useful and desirable for a man. To be able to cook, willingly do housework, always choose not a career, but a family, look good, be ready for sex, promise it with every wave of eyelashes, every smile - such an example is given to us by magazines "for women", talk shows and films.
When a child becomes objectified, it is easier to notice objectification: for example, the obligatory make-up on a woman has long become a non-controversial topic, a resolved issue, while a child with cosmetics in uncomfortable clothes causes controversy. In this case, the consequences of the perception of a person as an object devoid of personality traits and creative potential are more obvious.
It is worth noting, however, that the objectification of adult women and girls is closely related. This is the result of the same belief system that asserts the perception of a person as a purely bodily object due to the individual's female gender. And when we talk about the objectification of a woman, we are talking about the practice of early marriage, and about ritual female circumcision, and about the specific education of girls, which is aimed at forming in them a complex of ideas about their capabilities only in the role of someone's woman: someone sisters, mistresses, wives, mothers.
The struggle for the right to be, to act and to choose - this is how the development of women's history can be determined. And if in the Middle Ages marriages with 11-13-year-old girls were considered the norm, then in Europe and the United States by the middle of the 20th century, fortunately, this became unthinkable. Or almost unthinkable (after all, in a number of countries the problem of marriages with minors is still relevant).
The sexual revolution, in which the second wave of feminists played a large role, has led to paradoxical consequences: an expanded and deeper understanding of sexuality has become the basis for a lot of speculation. Women received a certain sexual freedom with the adaptation of this to the world of patriarchal values, where the pleasure of men is in the first place. Often a woman had the opportunity for self-realization only if she accepted the male rules of the game: you are a woman, which means that you are sexy and available. And there was no (and does it exist now?) Clearly defined age threshold, beyond which a woman would be protected from attention to her body as a sexual object.
Model girls
In the 70s of the last century, many magazines filmed minors for their openly erotic covers, and there was no serious opposition to this: disputes in various talk shows and the press only fueled interest in photography. Many famous actresses and models who started their careers 30-40 years ago were sexualized by the media industry at a very young age, their popularity in one way or another depended on conforming to the image of a nymphet, a fatal girl who combines innocence and power.
In the book The Myth of Beauty, Naomi Wolfe notes that "the ideal of female beauty is becoming more and more sexual, and girls at an increasingly young age feel the need to conform to it":
Both illustrations - Mila Jovovich for Lei magazine, 1987
Mila Jovovich started her modeling career early and managed to take part in many candid photo shoots even before she came of age: she first appeared on the cover of the Italian magazine Lei at the age of 11. Later, the famous American photographer Richard Avedon offered her a photo shoot for Mademoiselle magazine. The problem of attracting minors into show business for several months became the subject of conversation in American talk shows, but in the same year Mila appeared on the covers of 15 magazines;
In the “Gifts” / “Cadeaux” photo session (Vogue Paris 2011) by photographer Sharif Hamza, three little girls act as real models of gloss. One of the girls, ten-year-old rising star of the modeling business, Thilane Blondeau, is not the first time she participates in such photo sessions; the other two are only 6 years old.
The stories of Brooke Shields and Eva Ionesco are very similar: the girls appeared on the covers of erotic magazines at the same time, at about the same age. Subsequently, the traumatic experiences of both formed the basis of the plot of two films that raise the problem of sexual objectification of children.
In 1975, at the age of 10, actress Brooke Shields, with the approval of her mother, took part in an erotic photo shoot of Harry Gross for Playboy. The model was completely nude. Subsequently, Shields tried for many years to sue the magazine for the rights to photos and negatives, but she could not do this, which indicates the insensitivity of society to the injuries of objectified women. The shooting of 15-year-old Brooke Shields for the ad for Calvin Klein jeans continued to exploit the image of a sexy nymphet - the girl utters a provocative slogan: “Do you want to know what is between me and my jeans? Nothing!";
In 1978, Brooke Shields starred in the film "Lovely child" , which tells about the life of little Violet in a brothel where her mother works as a prostitute. Lovely Child is the story of a child who has no right to be a child. It would seem that the fate of Violet, which is imposed on a non-childish behavioral pattern, should push the media world to rethink traditions. However, after the release of the film, the problem has not lost its relevance.
Irina Ionesco has been taking erotic photographs of her daughter Eva since the age of five. In October 1976, photographs of the 11-year-old, taken by Jacques Bourboulon, appeared in Playboy magazine. Subsequently, Irina Ionesco was deprived of her parental rights, but the issue of the sexual exploitation of the child was still not resolved: the shocking story briefly disturbed society, but did not push for a radical reappraisal. In 2011, Eva made the autobiographical film My Little Princess, which tells about her relationship with her mother and childhood that did not exist. The main character, whose prototype was Eve, is named Violetta, which, perhaps, refers the viewer to the film "Beautiful Child", shows the enduring permanence of the tragedy. In 2012, Eva sued her mother, demanding to pay her 200 thousand euros and prohibit Irina from making a profit from previously published photos. The amount of the payment by the court decision was reduced 20 times, and Irina Ionesco retained the right to profit from the pictures. This proves once again that the public assessment of objectification is still far from humanity and common sense.
Lolita
Speaking about the objectification of a child and the image of a sexual nymphet in culture, you certainly remember "Lolita" by Vladimir Nabokov. The book, first published in 1955, exposed a layer of existing problems and outlined the main reasons why girls are perceived as objects of sexual interest. The scandalous book was not at all "The Bible of a Pedophile": portraying the plot and characters, Nabokov shows the immaturity and vulnerability of the main character, correctly notices the characteristic methods of objectification. The image of Lolita in our usual sense was created by the film industry, cosmetics companies and clothing brands that supported the appeal of the myth of the half-girl-half-woman, and not at all by Nabokov.
Still from the movie "Lolita", Stanley Kubrick, 1962
If you compare the book and its adaptation, it is easy to see how popular culture adjusts the original story to the traditions, tastes and desires of the consumer. If Vladimir Nabokov clearly shares the real state of affairs and Humbert's ideas about the girl's sexuality, then already with Kubrick the image of Lolita takes on a tinge of imperious demonism. Adrian Line completes the construction of the image of the fatal Lolita: neglecting the vulnerability of the main character, he turns the girl into a little imp who hides sexuality and readiness for relationships behind a mockingly young body. This interpretation of the story of Humbert and Lolita works to romanticize the sexual exploitation of women in general and girls in particular, encourages victim blaming and ascribes a maturity to the child / adolescent, which in reality does not exist.
In the essay "Lolita, or Stavrogin and Beatrice" Stanislav Lem emphasizes the value of any human life, takes away possible excuses from Humbert:
Let us recall the characteristic features of the relationship between Humbert and Lolita:
Humbert often compares Lolita with a domesticated animal, deprives her of subjectivity;
Describing adult women and nymphets, Humbert criticizes the former for being unnatural and ironically characterizes their makeup. Thus, a new requirement is presented to the woman: she must look young, beautiful, bright, but at the same time not use cosmetics;
The first sexual intercourse occurs after Humbert informs the girl about the death of her mother, i.e. at a time when the injured child is very vulnerable;
Humbert interprets his own inability to build relationships with an adult who has life experience and independence in judgments as a desire for purity;
Humbert controls the development of Lolita, tries to limit communication with other people, redirect her cognitive interest purely to his address;
Humbert is angry with the fact that Lolita is growing up, wants to acquire independence;
Monetary reward as a method of manipulating Lolita, removing guilt from oneself;
Anxiety, characteristic of the abusers, that punishment will follow (Humbert thought over a plan to put Lolita to sleep, which would have saved him from responsibility to society. At the same time, the question of torment of conscience, responsibility to Lolita and himself does not arise)
The Amy Fisher case is proof of how closely related cultural traditions and real life, as the images broadcast by the media, determine the attitude towards this or that phenomenon. During the well-known process 1992-1993. 16-year-old Amy has been dubbed "Long Island Lolita" because her story resembles a distorted but popular portrayal of a sexy, manipulative Lolita. Amy Fisher had sexual intercourse with a 35-year-old married businessman and a year later realized that the role of mistress was not suitable for her. Together with the man himself, she thought out a plan to kill his wife, but it did not take place: the doctors managed to save the woman. Joey Battafuoko at the trial denied his involvement in the attempted murder of his wife. The image of Lolita, who understands what she wants and is able to achieve it, became the main line of accusation. By blaming Amy for her sexual attraction, the man escaped due punishment: Amy Fisher spent 7 years in prison, Battafuoko - 6 months.
The danger of romanticizing the image of "distorted Lolita" is not only that it removes the blame from the truly grown man, who manipulates the less mature, but also in its appeal to women: it seems that following this example provides power and protection at the same time. But after all, all systems of suppression and violence are built in this way, based on compensation: the abuse seeks to justify its existence by providing the victim with imaginary privileges. In this case, the girl is invited to feel like an adult, independent, influencing the course of things, a woman - to be “guarded”, pseudo-protected, cleaner than other representatives of her gender (slatshaming in relation to a woman plays an important role in this).
Still from the movie "Lolita", Adrian Line, 1997
In the essay "Lolita Complex" Hanna JL Feldman raises the question of transforming the image of Lolita, argues that "Desiring her or faking her attractiveness means infantilizing both women themselves and their sexuality, and such a move is difficult to reconcile with the onset of feminism":
It is important to understand that culture (especially mass culture) is a powerful tool for managing human behavior, it articulates the acceptability of one image or another, and forms an attitude towards phenomena. While television and specialized magazines, alien to the idea of \u200b\u200bgender equality, dictate to a woman in what framework she can self-actualize, the problem of replicating cliché images remains urgent. Naomi Wolf explains the choice of "desirable" character traits and appearance as follows:
With a very limited set of role models in real life, women are looking for them on television and cinema screens, on the pages of glossy magazines. In male culture, women are deliberately positioned as just beauties and nothing else to maintain male dominance. The manifestation of character makes a woman an undesirable member of society, and the role of an ingenue, on the contrary, is in every possible way encouraged.
Indeed, the role model of Lolita meets the requirements of a "male" society: Lolita is safe, Lolita is defenseless, Lolita is dependent, Lolita is beautiful and stupid. Continuing the line of the Marquis de Sade, who eroticized the unpunished mockery of a woman, popular culture offers us many options for one image: from Anestacia from "50 Shades of Gray", who enjoys her controllability, to Irene Adler, who, although she tries to get power through knowledge, still remains in the controversial status of an escort worker.
Crowned babies
Needless to say, the issue of the objectification of children was closed. Today there is still a demand for the image of a sexy girl. TLC TV show Toddlers and Tiaras shows the illusion of a half-woman girl, small but seductive, knowing what she wants. Each episode tells the story of a regional beauty contest in which children are accustomed to fake eyelashes, hairspray and flashy makeup. They assume the poses of "magazine women" and the myth of accelerated sexuality continues to live on.
Teah's Wedding Blog
However, there are projects that encourage people to think about the dangers of objectification, about the connection between child sexualization and the practice of early marriage. This fall, Thea's wedding blog became the most read blog in Norway in just one day. The Norwegian media hotly discussed the project, which told about the preparations of a 12-year-old girl for a fictitious wedding with an adult man. In the blog, Thea shared her thoughts about the upcoming wedding, about what is expecting a child in such a situation. The Norwegians, who believed in the reality of what was happening, called the police and demanded not to allow the marriage. Thea's "Wedding"
Psychology
“In the age range between nine and fourteen there are girls who, for some enchanted wanderers, twice or many times older than them, reveal their true essence - not human, but nymphic (that is, demonic) essence, and I propose to name these little chosen ones so: nymphets ", - V. Nabokov" Lolita ".
The thin legs of a teenage girl confidently walk along the pavement. She developed too early for her 12 years. Her attractiveness is obvious and even defiant, and yet there is something incomplete, unnatural in her ... The nymphet, due to her youth and infantilism, relies on irresponsibility and frivolity, giving sensuality to the holiday. This is exactly what attracts her mature men... For some, Lolita is a cute doll, pleasant entertainment. For another - hope to find perfect womanwho, ironically, turns out to be a 12-year-old girl.
Not a childish craftiness
Today's Lolita is not Nabokov's heroine, who sought to protect and support her father, but could only get it through sex. Modern nymphets are well aware of the power of their attractiveness and do not miss the chance to use it. These are no longer touching innocent princesses who love pink elephants and sweet candies. Modern Lolita is a barbie girl in cute panties and breasts worthy of 30s. No more flower petals and touching tenderness - sheer sharpness, jerky transition, instant transformation, growing up without stages - immediately and forever.
All their childish essence is outside, all bitchiness is inside. Young adorable girls cause affection in those around them. A naive look, full of shy interest, from time to time stops at someone else's husband, hiding in his eyes not childish slyness. Surprisingly, those around her consider Lolitochka absolutely incapable of weaving intrigues. And in vain.
You have to pay for wealth
Insidious Lolitches skillfully use the victim's ignorance. Because the nymphet's plans provide for the use of other people's funds to realize their own dreams. They strive for diamonds, cars, a luxurious life without hassle and worries. However, for this desire, many do not understand what they are doing, because you have to pay for wealth ...
- 10 - 12 years - this is the moment of formation, when girls begin to feel like women and the emerging power of their attractiveness. They try to establish themselves as women, but use the strategy of a man. Because dragging into bed, conquering the opposite sex is the prerogative of men. It is they who are equal to each other in the number of women, and this has never been a plus for the fair sex, - says psychologist-consultant Victoria Ryabova. - A woman conquers men to others: it is important not how many partners were in bed, but how many fans there were!
the Forbidden fruit
There are several reasons why little girls pay attention to adult men. But most often the problem originates in the family, upbringing, parent-child relationships. For example, many girls try to attract the attention of their father with the behavior of Lolita when he is too dissatisfied with his daughter and wants to make her perfect. They try to prove to him that they are worthy of his love.
The psychologist recalls cases from practice: Mom came to the consultation upset: the husband does not give her daughter peace of mind. She constantly terrorizes her, scolds her, says that she does everything badly: washing, cooking, cleaning. Mom began to notice that her daughter has been behaving somehow strangely lately: her skirt is shorter, her cut is deeper, her makeup is brighter, her behavior is defiant. But she's only 14! “In fact, the girl just wants to show her dad that she is a good, smart, beautiful, real princess! But due to her age, she can only do this through defiant behavior with boys, ”explains Viktoria Borisovna.
Prohibitions also negatively affect. Strict advice, stories about sex as something nasty, otherwise, bad lead to the fact that there is an irresistible desire to try the forbidden fruit. And find out what is so disgusting about what everyone is doing so actively !?
Sometimes girls have only "Lolita syndrome", which is a danger only for themselves. The nymphet reaches either to a legendary man, fanned with glory, or unconsciously seeks not a partner-spouse, but a defender-father (since sex is not yet the main thing for her in such an alliance). These are, as a rule, girls either from single-parent families, or seriously conflicting with their own father, or simply crushed by parental care.
This is a mental disorder
By the age of 12, Vera had developed into a beautiful, bright girl. She tried in every possible way to emphasize her appearance, which very alarmed her parents. After a long work with a psychologist, it turned out that my mother loved another all her life, and in the family she only played the role of a mistress, but not a woman. The girl tried to prove to her dad that she was feminine and beautiful, attracting the attention of men. That is, she performed her mother's role as a woman, striving for dad to be truly happy. The story of this family ended sadly: the marriage broke up. However, Vera, even after the divorce, continues to play the role of Lolita.
“Do not forget that a family is a system in which a person grows and develops, it affects him for the rest of his life,” explains Viktoria Borisovna. - The problems of children in most cases are in their parents. For example, the girl's mother herself at one time got married and gave birth at the age of 15, and now she wonders why her daughter is too sexy at 12! "
The psychologist is sure that the parents themselves will not be able to understand the situation, to understand where the true reason for the nymph essence of their daughter lies. After all, such behavior is not the norm, but a mental deviation! Each case must be analyzed individually. Someone has problems from improper upbringing, others are trying to assert themselves due to this. “It happens that the reasons lie purely in the psychological changes of the child. Parents may not know that their child has been sexually harassed. Or some uncle hit the girl on the bottom, and a warm wave rushed over her, and this shocked her. After all, the development of correct sexuality in children is a whole layer of the work of psychotherapy. "
Lost childhood
Like attracts like. Men who are attracted to these girls and who have sexual contact with them are mentally inadequate. It is a disease that is socially condemned and punished by the state, but not cured. Men still go for it, looking for a beautiful thing in Lolita, youth or daughter. As a result, they gain control, but it is only illusory.
And what happens to nymphets when they cross the age of real Lolitas? Units cope with this situation on their own, while others have two options for the development of fate. For the first, all men become goats, because they cannot satisfy their request in a relationship, to find a protective father. And still, continuing to search, they go from hand to hand ... Or, in the end, Lolita finds her hero and becomes pathologically dependent on relationships, turning into a slave.
And for an aging lover, a passion for a nymphet can mean death, because no matter how he manages to avoid parting, it will happen. It is unlikely that he will be able to avoid this blow, because everything was at stake.
“The melody I heard was composed of the sounds of children playing. Standing on a high slope, I could not hear enough of this musical vibration, these outbursts of individual exclamations against the background of an even rumbling, and then it became clear to me that the piercing, hopeless horror was not that Lolita was not with me, but that that her voice is not in this chorus "...
