Who is a family man in the zone. Prison life. Sometimes it happens

In modern society, it is not customary to divide people into any groups, estates and castes. However, this rule does not apply to places of deprivation of liberty, where for many decades there has been a strict classification of convicts into peculiar groups (or, as they say in the zone, suits).

Prison suits

The suits in the zone are the division of all prisoners into peculiar groups that differ from each other in prison status, rights and concepts.

Absolutely in any prison and colony there is a clear distinction between all prisoners into certain groups or suits: “thieves”, “muzhiks”, “goats” and “roosters”. There are also so-called intermediate groups, which vary depending on the specific place of deprivation of liberty. Such "intermediate" castes include "roosters", "lowered", "offended" and others.

The suits in the zone are quite closed groups, and it is almost impossible to move from one caste to another.

"Authorities" of the zone

The most significant, important and honorable suit in the zone are "thieves". This caste is the smallest, and it’s not easy to get into it. So, who is this "thug"?

"Thieves" - this is real, almost unlimited power in the zone. It is the members of this group who establish unwritten rules of conduct in places of deprivation of liberty, monitor order in the zone, resolve conflict situations that arise between prisoners, and punish the "guilty" to the fullest extent of the prison law.

A special group of "thieves" are the so-called thieves in law. These are recognized. Moreover, they do not have to trade in thefts. A "thief in law" is a person who has an impeccable criminal reputation, the right concepts and strictly observes

If answering the question about , who is “thieves”, then we can say that he behaves “correctly” not only in the zone, but also did not have any “jambs” at large. For example, "thieves" should not serve in the army, in the wild they should not have held leadership positions or worked in the service sector (taxi drivers, waiters). In Soviet times, such authorities were forbidden to have a family and be a member of any political party.

The main

The leader of the "thieves" is the "godfather" - a recognized criminal authority. If there is no such person in the zone, then a “watcher” is appointed - a prisoner who performs the functions of a leader.

"Godfather" and his entourage (that is, "thieves") have special privileges in the zone. They may not work, leaving for themselves from the “common fund” everything they see fit.

AT modern world many "thieves" in the zone interact with the administration and establish those orders that are beneficial to the leadership of the colony. Instead of “thieves”, comfortable conditions of detention are created (they secretly receive alcohol, marijuana, telephones and other benefits). Although this does not correspond to thieves' concepts, market relations in our time also reign in the zone.

Who is a "man"?

"Guys" - this is perhaps the most numerous and neutral group of prisoners. It includes prisoners who received a term for committing minor crimes. As a rule, these are absolutely random people in prison: having got into the zone once, they try to free themselves as quickly as possible and return to ordinary life at will.

Among the "muzhiks" there are, of course, such prisoners who are respected by the "thieves" and even listen to their opinion.

This group of prisoners is considered neutral and quite numerous. And if we talk about who a “man” is, this is the prisoner who, at the end of his term, will forget everything like “ horrible dream” and will try not to return to the zone anymore.

"Goats" are...

If it is honorable to belong to the two suits described above, then to fall into the caste of "goats" means to put yourself against the rest of the prisoners. As a rule, those prisoners who, according to own will(and in some cases under duress) began to cooperate with the administration of the correctional facility.

So, if a prisoner agreed to take the position of a prison librarian or supply manager, then he automatically fell into the caste of "goats". Convicts belonging to this suit actively cooperate with the prison authorities, fulfilling all their instructions. In this regard, the rest of the prisoners treat them as traitors.

Such a situation deprives the "goats" of the right to participate in prison squabbles, they are not allowed to the "common fund", they do not have the right to vote. Meanwhile, you can greet representatives of this suit, you can touch them and, if you wish, you can communicate with them.

You don't wish on your enemy

The suits on the zone are unchanged. You cannot move from a lower caste to a more authoritative one. So, a "goat" will never become a "man" or "thieves". But you can get into the lowest caste.

A suit like "rooster" is a real nightmare for a prisoner. The prisoners who fell into this caste do not live easily in the zone, to put it mildly. This group of prisoners is also called "offended", "lowered", "untouchable". This suit includes passive homosexuals and prisoners punished by having sexual contact with them. Moreover, there may not be a sexual intercourse itself: a prisoner can simply be swiped across the lips with a genital organ, and from that moment on he will be considered a “rooster”.

Representatives of this suit are outcasts: you can’t touch them, you can’t take anything from them. "Roosters" use separate dishes, have a separate sleeping place (as a rule, at the entrance to the cell). It is not customary to talk to them. "Roosters" are forbidden to approach the rest of the prisoners closer than three steps. It is they who do the dirtiest work in the prison - they clean toilets, wash the parade ground.

However, when "roosters" are "used" (that's what they say in the zone), this is not considered any kind of defiling contact.

There is also an ominous "tradition" - to make holes in plates, spoons and mugs of "roosters". In order for a convict belonging to this caste to eat or drink, it is necessary to plug the holes with your fingers. And this is the most harmless humiliation of those to which "roosters" are subjected.

Prison laws are very strict and cruel. Therefore, the slightest deviation from the established norms of behavior inevitably leads to punishment. So, having become a “rooster” once, a person is deprived of the right to human relations in prison and is subjected to humiliation until the end of his term. Not everyone can withstand this, so many prisoners who fall into the “rooster” caste commit suicide.

Sometimes it happens

The above suits are available in all zones and prisons. However, some have their own specific, so-called intermediate castes.

There are especially many such castes in the zone where juvenile delinquents are kept. On the "youngster", in addition to the already indicated castes, there are such suits as:

• "forshmaki", which includes prisoners who have committed some minor offense in the zone due to ignorance of the rules and norms of behavior;
• "devils" - that is, those prisoners who were convicted of stealing from their cellmates;
• "sneakers" who act as servants;
• "washerwomen", "butterers", "shortage" and others.

In some adult zones, peculiar podcasts are common. For example, “thieves”, which includes prisoners who make up the “retinue” of “thieves” (while they themselves are not thieves). Or the "scoundrels" caste, which includes "thieves" prisoners who have committed some heinous act.

Live "by definition"

Whatever suit the prisoner belongs to, he is obliged to comply with the Zon's concepts. Concepts are the established norms of behavior of a prisoner in places of deprivation of liberty. Strict observance of these unwritten rules helps to avoid the occurrence of conflict, and sometimes life-threatening situations.

Prison laws (or concepts) are very similar to the norms of life in freedom. The paradox lies in the fact that often prisoners who violated the law in the wild (for example, by stealing) strictly adhere to the rule “do not steal” in places of deprivation of liberty.

The main Zon concepts boil down to the following: do not “knock” and do not steal from your own (that is, from the same prisoners), do not let “words go to the wind” (if you threatened someone, you must punish; otherwise, they will punish you for chatting) .

You can’t interfere in other people’s affairs and conversations in the zone, impose your opinion, lie and swear (since the demand for any spoken word in prison is much greater than in freedom).

You should not be greedy in places of deprivation of liberty: it is customary to share with cellmates. And, of course, you should not put yourself above the rest, because this can lead to dire consequences.

Strange Norms

Some areas have very strange laws. This is especially true of colonies that contain juvenile offenders. For example, you can’t pick up anything from the floor, you can’t finish smoking a cigarette after prisoners who belong to lower prison castes.

There are prisons in which they can only be lowered for the fact that the prisoner went to the toilet and did not wash his hands or mended his socks.

There are also such colonies in which it is customary to wash in the bath with two washcloths - one to the waist, the second - for everything else. A towel, which is commonly called a “waffle”, is considered a “checkered towel” in the zone. And the prisoner who does not know this rule will not be very well.

Red zone. Zone "black"

According to suits, not only the prisoners themselves are divided, but also the places of their detention. All zones are divided into "black" and "red".

"Red" - these are the prisons in which tough "Cop" concepts prevail. In such prisons, the interaction of prisoners with the administration of the correctional institution is strongly encouraged. Life here proceeds according to the rules of the zone management.

"Black" prisons (which are the majority in Russia) are those correctional institutions in which everything is built on thieves' suits. Here, the suits in the zone are of great importance. Collaborating with the administration of such a colony is considered “zapadno”.

In the "black" zones, prisoners who "knock" the leadership are referred to the "goat" caste (they are also called "red"). "Red" in the zone will never be able to live in peace, since he will cause hatred among all other prisoners and will be considered a traitor.

Finally

For many decades, clear and strict rules and norms for the behavior of prisoners have been formed in places of deprivation of liberty. Violation of the established rules leads prisoners to punishment, which, most often, consists in transferring to the lowest prison caste.

And if for an ordinary law-abiding citizen such a punishment seems childish, then for the inhabitants of the zone it is the most severe and severe punishment. After all, a safe and calm serving of a term directly depends on what suit the prisoner belongs to.

Despite the fact that modern society and worldview has introduced many innovations into prison life, there are things that still remain unchanged - these are prison castes (suits), thieves' laws and concepts.

“One evening in 2012, I was packing my bags to go on vacation with the whole family, when I suddenly heard a knock on the door. My husband Patrick was not at home - he went to shoot with a bow. When I opened the door, I saw a whole group of policemen.

“Mrs. Jacob, we have a search warrant. This concerns your husband, he has been detained,” one of the officers said.

Terrified, I turned around to see if the children had heard it, but they were absorbed in the television. Then I desperately called the police station and lawyers, but to no avail. I panicked so much that I didn't even ask about the charges.

At that moment, my usual, happy and comfortable life ended. A minute ago, I was going to relax with my family on the central coast of Australia, and now I'm calling lawyers to talk to husbands, whom I will only see in the courtroom or in prison for the next 4 years.

Patrick and I met during the New Year celebration 21 years ago. We got married in 1998, we have a seven-year-old son and a five-year-old daughter. I worked successfully, we moved from Sydney and built a house in the suburbs.

Patrick was a father you could rely on. He played with the children, changed their diapers, fed them, bathed them, read bedtime stories and took them to the park. He was a great earner, loyal, funny and smart. We have been together for 14 years, I knew everything about him.

It must sound naive now, but I never thought that Patrick could get in trouble - he was always so reliable.

That evening, the police were unable to explain to me exactly what he was accused of. He spent the night in prison, and then I saw him in the courtroom after being released on bail.

Patrick was charged with illegal possession of weapons: two crossbows, one unregistered rifle and three metal objects (obviously cold weapons). In addition, he agreed to sell the rifle to an undercover cop and assembled a crossbow for another officer.

I didn't get a chance to talk to him until he was released on bail. During the first conversation, I was angry and worried. He looked very guilty.

He said that he did not know that he was doing something illegal: he did not know that the rifle was unregistered and did not collect a crossbow.

Two years elapsed between his arrest and prison. I went to all court hearings, trying to behave at home, as usual, for the sake of the children. These days are blurred in my memory. At the first hearing, a few months after his arrest, Patrick pleaded guilty to some counts while denying the rest of the charges.

When I heard the verdict, I felt at a dead end: four and a half years in prison. Everything seemed to be happening very quickly. He was taken out of the sala accompanied by two policemen, I could not talk to him, he was taken into custody and I had to wait several days just to call.

I was afraid that he would be beaten in prison - he is not such a tough guy, and some of the people I saw there looked pretty scary.

We never took children to court. When I sat down and explained to them where Dad was now, they seemed to take it quite lightly. My daughter was most worried about whether I would still buy cookies for her. But over time, life without a father became difficult for them.

I was angry at Patrick—very angry. What happened was contrary to all my ideas about him. How could he do such an idiotic thing?

My life has changed. I became a single mother, although in fact I was married. I had to take over Patrick's business and work as a freelancer to keep us going.

A few months after the sentencing, I became very lonely. The kids went to bed early and I was suddenly alone. This was the time when Patrick and I used to talk or watch TV together. I missed him.

He spent two years in prison, being released early in January 2015. We even noted it, but it was hard times. Patrick was in a state of post-traumatic stress disorder.

He was either completely detached from what was happening, or angry. For two years he lived in the midst of cruelty and could not relax even for a minute.

Now we are still together and try to work on our relationship, although it is very difficult. We went to a specialist who worked out a strategy for Patrick to adapt, but still my husband is no longer the same as he was before prison. We both experienced trauma, but both in different ways, so it’s hard for us to understand each other. Even though we try very hard.

The biggest lesson for me is the ability to forgive. If I continued to be angry with him, it would make me unhappy. And I decided to move forward. I learned that we can take more than we think. You never know what else life has in store for you."

In a remand prison, a hut is not only a cage assigned to you with a number on the door, it is the people who live in it. If you sit in a small cell for five, seven people, then, as a rule, they make up one family. In a prison family, just like in a free family, anything can happen - both quarrels and disagreements, but this does not make the common between you disappear. They do not enjoy respect among the prisoners of the hut, where every man is for himself, on his own. In a large cell, for several dozen people, there are several families, in the family everything is equally divided. There is also a common fund, something like a mutual aid fund. It is difficult with smoking, tea - they create a common (general) stock of tea, shag, tobacco, everyone who has received a parcel or bought goods in a stall makes a voluntary contribution here. And those who have nothing use this common fund.

The common fund is a sacred thing, and those who are greedy do not enjoy the respect of society, and will not help him in difficult times. For example, a newcomer enters the hut: “Hi, lads.” He unties the bag, slowly, takes out a couple of packs of cigarettes, maybe tea, a piece of bacon, a bag of sweets: “This is for a common fund ...” It is immediately obvious: a traveling man, a prisoner, a tramp. Another rolls into a cell with a huge sidor and begins, as they say, to change - to whom it would be more profitable for him to settle down. All the same, he will not save his sidor, he will lose at cards or some kind of laying they will do to him - the prisoners in this respect are cunning people ...

In the zone, a common fund is a general fund of money, food, things, to which convicts voluntarily, as much as they want, make their contributions. It is believed that if there is a common fund in the zone, the zone is correct. All men and thieves can participate in the common fund. Goats, roosters and others - no. But those have their own commons.

They try to keep the common fund in money - it's easier to hide it that way. They choose the person who looks after the common fund - an honest, pure convict in this life. He recruits his own assistants. Each member of the obshchak gives them a share of everything that he receives in addition to rations and official clothes - part of the parcel, part of the goods in the stall, part of the money that they receive for left-handed earnings or from relatives. Funds from the obshchak, in turn, are used both for general needs and to help individuals. A person arrives in a stage, has not yet settled down, has not had time to buy goods, has not been on a date. For the first time, the most necessary things for him will be from the common fund. The same for those who are suddenly sent to the stage, to the “covered”, etc.

ShIZO and PKT, for example, the common fund should heat. It is interesting that there are also small communal funds in ShIZO - there a person donates his ration on the first and on last days releases. It is believed that a person from "freedom" can go hungry for a day - he is still full of yesterday. And the one who is released from the ShIZO is not in danger of starvation - tomorrow he will eat enough. From the obshchak funds they help those who are released with clothes and money.

In the camp, a family is a group of convicts running a common household and having a common income. That is, in addition to the general camp common fund, they have their own small common fund. One family consists of two or more, up to 15-20 people. Family members take care of each other, protect their members in boundless zones. Although such protection, of course, is not considered a normal phenomenon. In the right zones, the prisoner is protected by law. And if he violated this law, the family has no right to intercede for him. On the contrary, family members are bound by mutual responsibility, that is, collective responsibility for the actions of each member of their family. The family must also pay a fine for their family member so that he is not lowered or killed, and punish him properly if he is recognized as a criminal at the showdown. Leaving the family is considered a joint. In general, the family in the zone is the father and his children. Their mother died, now they live alone, as best they can. In the conditions of the zone, this phenomenon is quite normal and good.

There is another word - kentovka. First, it is synonymous with the word "family". But there is also a second meaning of the word. If the family usually comes the most different people- as a rule, only because of personal sympathies or for reasons of the benefits of living together, then kentovka consists mainly of fellow countrymen. The area of ​​"land", the former inhabitants of which can gather in a zone of one kentovka, is practically unlimited. Maybe Siberian kentovka in some Central Asian zone. And in a zone located in a city, there may be a kentovka, consisting only of residents of one street of this city. And, accordingly, other street kents. If the streets of this city (or neighboring districts, or neighboring villages) are at enmity in the wild, then the corresponding Kentovkas are usually at enmity in the zone.

- And what about the zones with the national question?

There are national kents in the zones. Sometimes tensions arise between them - rivalry, distrust, gloating. I have not heard of any inter-ethnic massacres in the zones. The prison law, like its progenitor, the thieves' law, does not recognize nationalities. For the thieves' law, the national question is a fraer question, that is, unworthy of the attention of a normal person.

True, as already mentioned, the thieves' law has undergone many changes in recent years. And the order in the prison has changed. Today, the struggle between different factions can also take on a national character.

The fact is that among the “oranges” there are many Caucasians, they are also called “lavrushniks”. There has long been unemployment and overcrowding in the Caucasus, and there are few brides left. So the men are moving from there to Russia. Sometimes they end up in the underworld. Emigrants around the world are much more active than locals, and in the underworld too. Caucasians, according to their national cultures, have always been shameless to engage in trade and business. They quickly realized what benefits can be derived from the rank of thieves. As a result, today there are fewer and fewer Russians among thieves in law. This is according to the Ministry of Internal Affairs, which continues to record people on a national basis. According to the same data, today there are about the same number of Georgians among thieves in law as Russians. There are also many immigrants from other Caucasian peoples - Azerbaijanis, Armenians.

Of course, the Caucasian at the head of the group does not mean that his lads consist entirely of fellow tribesmen. There are also Caucasian gangs with a Russian godfather, and Russian gangs with a godfather from the Caucasus. In this sense, the underworld is still international. But when the gangs begin to quarrel, everything comes into play, including the fascist ideology.

Trade relations between convicts. Zeki are people too...

In a prison, unlike in a zone, huckstering (that is, buying and selling) is not welcome, and just like that, in a cell, to say, sell me, for example, for three packs of cigarettes or for such and such a sum, your sweater will not work. It is believed that everyone is in trouble, and fattening or using such a situation for selfish interests is low. Therefore, an offer to buy or sell something can be perceived as unworthy behavior.

Something can only be pushed "to the side" - usually through a balancer, and if the transaction is more or less large - it must be paid from it to the general. They usually push something from clothes, "products" of chamber craftsmen - stamps (painted noses or just pieces of cloth), rosaries, postcards. First of all, tea and cigarettes are bought from balanders. Perhaps something to eat - fried potatoes, for example, or something else.

But, firstly, by purchasing some of the products from the kitchen intended for prisoners, you can get in - after all, the balancer has to steal, and steal what is sacred for the prisoner - rations. If the balander has almost nothing to lose - his status is unlikely to drop lower (although he may also value his place), then for a decent prisoner this is a serious jamb, which, if desired, can be brought under rat-keeping (theft from his own). If even something is purchased and not from the kitchen, then all the same it can be regarded as an act, at least not entirely unworthy, if the acquisition is limited only to food.

Tea and smoking, as I said, are sacred - and if there is a goblin in at least one of the points in the hut, spending money on food in such a situation is like betraying thieves' ideals, even if the person who does it does not smoke or drink chief (then he can be accused also in the absence of prisoner solidarity).

In the zone, "decent" prisoners can only be sold through a huckster - a merchant "approved" by the authorities, who is obliged to pay tax on his activities to the obshchak. Themselves - zapadlo. Of course, it is possible to conduct a one-time deal, and even then for peasants, but to do this regularly is not.

Hucklers in their status are lower than peasants (or, more precisely, this is their lower, non-authoritative part) and do not have the right to vote in showdowns (they are not considered "decent" prisoners).

If a person has something for sale, he informs the huckster about it, and he is already looking for a buyer or buys himself for the purpose of resale. But we will talk about this again when we come to the description of life in the zone, but for now our main topic is the prison.

In prisons, it is considered shameful to have any property that lies in reserve. The thieves' ideology practically declares the rejection of possessiveness. A real thief does not steal in reserve, does not put off for tomorrow. "Stole, drank, jail." He lives only today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. A thief in law - the ideal of the thieves' world - should not have any property at all. Therefore, a real, "correct" thief never ceases to be one and does not give up his craft. "I'll tell, I'll stop, I'm waiting, I'm about to become rich" - this alignment does not roll.

This, of course, is all ideally - in life, as you know and understand, it is somewhat different. But I am telling this in order to make the direction of the tramp thought more understandable.

Idealism is generally characteristic of the thieves' outlook on life. An example of an ideologically correct criminal can, for example, be seen in the magnificent Hollywood film "Fight" - there the main "negative" hero says (I don’t remember verbatim): "You must be ready at any moment to give up everything that you have - values, love... Only then can you be a professional."

A real thief is a Warrior, always ready, if not for death, then for prison, and therefore appreciating life and any of its manifestations, and not postponing it for tomorrow. Full, total consciousness - after all, any moment can bring an unexpected turn. This taste of constant danger attracts, and will always attract more and more fighters to the fronts of invisible and obvious wars - and on both sides of the barricades.

"Always be ready for anything" - this is how meditation is explained in Aikido. A very attractive look for everyone - I won't go wrong if I say so (at least for men). Those who did not play Cossack robbers in childhood did not imagine themselves as a pirate or a great master of martial arts.

That is why the viewer of this film is more sympathetic to the negative hero - the "honest bandit", and not his opponent - the same reckless, but still bound by his status, cop (cop, that is, in their language). Remember "Leon the Killer", and many more films of the same theme.

Now they say that these films from the West "corrupted" our youth and society and provoked the growth of crime, especially organized crime. I dare not agree - this image existed in former times. The entire thieves' ideology is built on this image - and in terms of the depth of study and scope of our thieves' idea, which reached its peak in Soviet times (the era of "correct" films), there is no equal in the world. The Italian Cosa Nostra, the Chinese triads pale before the scope of the Russian soul.

After all, the whole country - its criminal part - lived according to one (never written down or published anywhere, but, nevertheless, practically the same!) rules - concepts. There was a whole country within the country - a single hierarchy, legislative, judicial and executive power, intelligence and counterintelligence. Section on thieves' workshops and professions. Taxes were collected (regularly!) by forming budgets (common funds) of different levels. A system of mutual assistance - social insurance in our opinion (something like "in case of unemployment" - here in case of imprisonment) and even a pension fund. Well-established communication and news reporting system, covering even the most closed prisons and zones (in the absence of mobile phones and other jokes). Its own language of communication - a system of secret signs (tattoos, gestures) and jargon, incomprehensible to the uninitiated.

And all this without a single center and leader for the entire movement. This life lived more than one hundred thousand (if not millions) of people in a space of one sixth of the land - from the Baltic to the Sea of ​​\u200b\u200bOkhotsk. Where are the American gangsters and Italian mafiosi (although the topic is good - a little later I will try to analyze the similarities and differences between various criminal communities).

So what united, nourished and kept this system, similar to the whole country, in balance? Just such a romantic image of the Warrior, the image of Freedom ...

And a warrior cannot burden himself with property, comfort, or family... Work and trade are contemptible occupations for him.

From this, the rules of conduct in places of detention arose, which were a continuation of the general thieves' ideology. In particular, the attitude towards property and trade, which I am now talking about.

If you have something extra (although there is no extra in prison), just give it to someone who needs it more. And if you need something, you can ask, of course, but remember the well-known motto "Do not believe, do not be afraid, do not ask." If you ask, then you run the risk of being perceived not as a “correct” kid (Warrior), who can endure any hardships and hardships without complaints, but as a peasant, a potential candidate for snoops, horses (prison servants), or even informers .

(A peasant is not a peasant by conviction, but only temporarily belonging to this category, until circumstances are pressed or proven otherwise. If the ideology of a thieves can be called the ideology of a warrior, then a real peasant can be called the ideology of a layman. Practical, without extreme views and actions, preferring bypass the conflict situation, but at the same time, not letting himself be offended and knowing his own worth.)

And almost certainly, asking, you get addicted. If not always material, then moral. As a thank you, you will have to listen, and maybe more than once, to the whole biography of your benefactor and his views on life. And if a person has chronic verbal diarrhea, then just hang yourself ...

And, in fact, in prison there is nothing that cannot be done without. If you don't receive a transmission, you eat gruel. Nothing to wear - wear what you have. The main thing is to be more or less clean and tidy. Cold - be patient. All this is hard, but... Usually, in normal huts, a person will not be allowed to starve to death or go ragged. If someone has two T-shirts - one, most likely, he will give it away if necessary.

It is difficult to draw a line here - sometimes, however, you can ask for something from clothes or things, and you see that a person has not the last. For example, there is nothing to go to court. But asking for food is generally not accepted - this is unworthy even of a peasant, only pigs and roosters can afford this.

You can’t say “Give” at the same time - this is one of the taboo words in prison. "Your "Give" ruined all the relationship" - they say in this case. "Won't you fit something to me?", "Brother! There is a great need - could you help me with something."

They can’t refuse if you don’t ask for the last (and for yourself not superfluous) - this is one of the basic rules of a chamber hostel. But, anyway, this is an extreme case, already acceptable between more or less familiar people.

And in no case should you offer anything in exchange - you will be accused of huckstering. It will be necessary, they will ask - in response, this is already done easier. You can invite, at the first opportunity, as a thank you, to drink chifirka, or pay attention from a dacha that has come in, without emphasizing, however, that you are doing it for something.

You can exchange only in order to diversify your life - for a sense of novelty, so to speak, equivalent things without commercial interest - sports suits, jackets, for example.

Among family members it is easier, they can establish the rules of their relations themselves - but only what kind of family man is he who does not see his brother's problems. If one has a full trunk, and the other walks in holey socks - a clear bias. Which everyone, of course, sees and very quickly draws conclusions. Families have everything in common.

But, nevertheless, "hidden" huckstering and begging, of course, exists and even flourishes. For this, sophisticated verbal tirades are used, in which you no longer remember where, in fact, you started. Long, multi-way, porches.

Or between the huts, for example, a little one: "We have a kurekha. If there is a need, contact us. If you suddenly have something to cheer up your soul, we will be grateful." This, of course, if they know exactly what tea should be - they saw or heard, for example, that the dacha came in. Otherwise, you can get there - and you won’t get tea, and you will have to share cigarettes ... If the dacha has come in, and there is both smoke and tea, then they won’t ask for cigarettes - it’s silly to ask if you yourself have it, but they share tea - all the more Well, we offered them kureha "for free."

Also, for this, getting into the soul, talking about your problems, pulling out to respond to complaints, offering help is used - and you are already in the order of an exchange of courtesies, sort of voluntarily, giving the person what he wanted to receive from you. Those who have not had time to get comfortable, there are almost no chances to fight off such beggars. Immunity is acquired over time.

Especially if the new one warms up well from freedom - there are countless "friends" and "family members". Get in the ass without soap. Cottages tear mercilessly, taking advantage of confusion and stunnedness, or modesty and natural tact. A person, of course, is looking for people close to him to explain the basic rules of life, not to let him go crazy, to share the pain. For this, the beginner has to pay with transfers that are destroyed by such "families". As a rule, a normal person eventually understands who is xy and gets rid of sticky.

Build retail racks And now modern architecture tacitly sets itself a goal that can be defined as follows: to build sections and counters for a total hypermarket. How does she achieve this goal? First, in aesthetics, she tries not to deviate one step from her