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How to change your life? 7 days and you will heal anew

People often think that it takes a lot of time and effort to change their lives. It is the fear of serious difficulties that stops most of us. But what if I say right now that my life can be changed in seven days? Don't believe me? And in vain. In this article we will talk about simple techniques and practices with which you can radically change your life, your attitude to people, to work, to all situations that happen to you. If you do not just read the recommendations that will be below, but take them seriously, you will live by such principles for at least seven days, then in a week you will begin to notice how your life is changing, how the world adjusts to your desires and requirements.

1. Change thoughts, desires, words, actions.
You should see a logical chain between thoughts, desires, words and actions. First, we form some kind of thought from which there is a desire flowing into words and actions. But our actions already determine the quality of life. Therefore, if you want to change your life, start with thoughts.

Stop judging, and first of all judging yourself. Each failure, each problem is nothing more than an opportunity, an opportunity to start all over again, but with a lot of experience, great knowledge. Also, you should not judge others, whatever they do, you should not judge them. Remember that everyone in this world has their own path, their own destiny, and their own choice. You do not know what is better for a person, how he needs to behave, therefore, do not impose your vision of the world, do not condemn his choice.

Positiveness is another trait that can short period change your life. Treat everything positively, don't be nervous, don't worry, don't get upset. When something happens, when I start to worry, I immediately remember the Chinese wisdom: "Excitement will not solve tomorrow's problems, but it will take away today's peace."

Words and phrases are another component of life change in 7 days. After you start thinking correctly, you must speak correctly. It may take some time to remove phrases from your vocabulary that "pour your enthusiasm and strength into the sand". We imperceptibly get used to our familiar words. But, as soon as you start using new words and phrases, with a new positive charge, you will be surprised how almost instantly people will react to you differently, and what new thoughts will appear in your head.

Here are some phrases to erase from your everyday life:

"The same day as yesterday"
"All the same"
"Nothing new"
"I can not"
"I do not want"
"I do not know"
"Nobody needs it"
Rejoice in every day, because it is not the same as yesterday, use all the opportunities, because it can be a step towards the realization of your desires. Remember that the world is as you see it for yourself.

2. Gratitude is like a great practice.

If something good happens in our life, then we begin to take it for granted. We offer you one great practice. For the next seven days, try to thank everyone and everything for what is happening to you. Personally, I do this. Every night before going to bed, I meditate, and gratitude is an essential part of meditation. I thank for the past day, for the people who met me, for the opportunities that were provided. If there were difficulties, then I thank for them, because I understand that any problem is just an opportunity, a lesson that needs to be learned and used in the future. Gratitude is a very powerful energy practice, and when you thank life for everything, it provides you with even more pleasant moments, brings more happiness and joy.

3. Wishlist

Changing your life is easy, and you can start doing it right now. 95% of people in the world live and have no idea what for. Why are they here? What are their goals? What do they want? How do they want it? If you really want to change your life, then you need to immediately determine. Take a piece of paper and think about what you want. Then start writing it down. Stay in the flow, the thought must go one by one. Try not to think and not impose any goals on yourself, let all desires come spontaneously, and you only need to write them down. As a rule, it will be difficult only with the first desire, and then everything will go without problems.

For example, you want to travel. So write down which countries you want to visit, what to see, learn, you teach. I am sure that you want your house, car, family, you want business, freedom and independence. Write, do not stop, put all-all-all thoughts on a piece of paper.

Some desires will be for the long term, some can be started to be fulfilled right now. The most important thing is to decide. If you know what you want, this is a sure way to make your dreams come true and change your life.

4. The best day is today.

In one of his songs, Leps sings that the best day came yesterday. But if you want to change your life, then for you there should not be yesterday, and you should not postpone anything for tomorrow. The best day is today. If you read these lines, then this is already a sign that something needs to be changed. Remember, there are no accidents, and it is not by chance that you came to our site and chose this particular article.

Every day you should wake up with the thought that today is the best day for great accomplishments, that today life will smile at you, you will be able to do everything planned, realize all your goals and objectives. And even if something does not work out, then at the end of the day, be sure to thank for all the opportunities that were provided, go to bed with bright thoughts, and wake up with a positive attitude for the day ahead.

5. Give yourself a chance

Very often people give up on themselves without even trying something. Someone thinks that he sings badly, someone thinks that they do not understand the Internet or modern technologies at all, someone else has some incomprehensible vision of themselves and their capabilities.

Give yourself a chance, challenge yourself, stop being afraid and imposing some incomprehensible fears on yourself. Take it and try it, and suddenly this is your calling. I knew a person who for a very long time wanted to write something (a series of articles, some recommendations or a book), but did not dare in any way, because once he was told that he was completely not adapted to this kind of occupation. This is how he was afraid for several years, did not believe in himself. But one day he challenged himself, started a blog, started writing. And what do you think happened next? The blog began to gain popularity, they even began to order articles from him, later he collected enough money and published his own book. Incredible, but true. Don't be afraid, give yourself a chance.

6. Set a global goal
Above, I already wrote that you should write down all, all, all your desires and goals, not be afraid of any, even the most incredible and stupid ones. But besides all this, you must decide on a global goal. This is already more difficult, but within seven days it is possible to do this. So, to begin with, try to honestly answer a few questions:
- What do I like to do the most?
- What are my talents?
- How would I like to make money?
- If I had 10 million dollars, what would I do?
- How can I be useful to society.
Try to give answers from the point of view of life positions, and not like this: "If I had 10 million, I would hang out and do nothing." Such an answer is a path to nowhere, the answer of a loser and a person who does not know at all what, how and why he wants in this life.
An acquaintance of mine also asked himself these questions. And in the end he came to the conclusion that he wanted to travel, explore the culture, way of life, cooking of other nations. Having collected a certain amount of money, he began to develop a culinary project, the main feature of which would be video blogs with different countries the world. The project is still in development, but there is a goal. The main thing is to do what you like, and only then will it bring happiness, joy and financial stability.

7. Don't drive horses.

Each new day brings certain changes to your life. Even if it seems to you that today is no different from yesterday, then this is the deepest delusion. Do not force events, do not drive horses. Try to understand that change does not come instantly, that life does not change in one hour, or in one day. If you look at a flower every minute, you will hardly notice how it grows, but it grows. Likewise, your life is changing, whether you see it or not. Learn to wait and believe that everything has already begun to change in better side.

So, in this article we examined 7 simple recommendations, seven elementary rules, following which you can easily change your life in seven days. I am not saying that life will begin to change dramatically, but the seed will be planted, and if you are patient, know how to believe and wait, then this seed will surely take root, germinate and eventually give incredible fruits. Good luck!

", I found one more reason, already 7 in a row. When you think about what to write on your blog, you discover something new every day. Today it is no coincidence that I went to the Internet and began to look for answers to the question "How to change your life?" The actual question, right?

Each person wants to change something in his life: someone - to lose weight, someone - to get fat, someone - to earn more. How do we usually start changing our lives? I analyzed all the past attempts and this is what happens. Very often there are situations when "Bam !!!" and we light up with an idea. This usually happens after watching some videos, films, communicating with people or random (ridiculous, shameful) situations.

As a rule, such a desire comes unconsciously, but only under the impression. Then we begin to nurture this thought and prepare until some perfect moment comes. Well Monday, there, or a new month. For some, only the preparation process is enough and everything ends there. So, for the second year now, I have new running shoes in my closet and an iPod, which I still haven't recorded any music on. I remember that I spent several weeks getting ready, walking to the store and buying everything, because without them I would not be able to start running in the morning in my new life.

Then “that” Monday comes, and all day we live as we imagined. We are happy, we are filled with new energy, everything starts to work out, and we are happy. Emotional growth is taking place on the life chart. A day, two, maybe a week passes, and then the worst thing begins - thoughts of doubt, fatigue, laziness, memory loss (we forget the goal to which we are going). The brain begins to deceive itself.

All new, seemingly interesting actions quickly turn into a routine. It is no longer so fun to do this, an emotional recession begins, we fall into an emotional pit. From which 99% of people cannot get out and return to habitual life. This is only half the trouble! Even worse is the fact that we are unconsciously forming habit failure, which is deposited in the head, and by default begins to be applied to our other actions.

After analyzing this situation, I wondered how to start creating my own life and learn how to effectively manage all its areas.

My opinion on how to start changing your life

In general, this was the idea of ​​creating a blog. Domain site does not mean infrared life, but a change in the quality of life. The other day I was reviewing the film "" and brought out one very important idea from it. It lies in the fact that having begun to change your life for the better, the lives of the people around you will also begin to change.

I really realized this when I did it 9 months ago, which gives its advantages. Today, many of my acquaintances watching me have also taken this step and switched to remote work, while others have already gone on their first independent journey.

But here's what I realized even more when I began to analyze my attempts. There is a reason why I have highlighted a few words above in bold. It's all about our HABITS! Having changed my lifestyle, I stopped going to the office every day to work, and I began to automatically form new habits. They have been forming in us since childhood, and we do not notice them.

I have no doubt that there are people who still think that habits are just something like smoking, biting nails, etc. But the ability to achieve goals, to think correctly are also habits.

These habits, I believe, are the beginning of the path to life change. As a rule, starting to change our lives on Monday, we try to change a couple of dozen habits at once, this is a great stress for the body, which instantly breaks our desire.

Since they form throughout our life, it is difficult to change them in a short time. Scientists have proven that you can get used to everything in 21 days, since the cells of the body that remember information are updated during this time, and the information is overwritten. But what to do with the brain that remembers everything? The body, of course, gets used to it in 21 days, but for some reason it gets rid of it faster.

Duck here. Let's now get back to the point, I already said that I relaxed a little during 9 months of free life, and this relaxation began to turn into a norm, and the effectiveness of my actions began to fall, they say about this. I often communicate with people who, in my understanding, live successfully, and I see what actions separate me from such a life.

Therefore, I decided to analyze one of the habits of successful people on my blog every month and set a goal to implement it in my life. And for more motivation - conclude a declaration with your subscribers. If I do not fulfill my goal, then I will pay my random subscriber, who will leave a comment and share an article on social networks, a decent amount of money. How much will I pay for not fulfilling the declaration and what habit I will introduce, you will find out in the next article.

Coincidentally, it will be released on Monday. But he began to introduce the habit today. Whoever is the first to guess what kind of habit it will be will receive a gift from me in the amount of 50 rubles for Web Money. Have a great weekend everyone, see you Monday.

And finally, here is a very interesting interview with a blogger - Slava Baransky. Useful Secrets how to change your life.

Best regards, Vasily Blinov

Hello dear readers. The daily routine draws us into its networks, because of which we simply cease to appreciate what we have. When long time nothing new happens, then it begins to seem that our life does not represent anything of value. In general, because of such things, our mood begins to deteriorate, which can even lead to depression. If you are tired of waking up and going to bed in a bad mood because you are not happy with your life, then now is the time to change it fundamentally. Do what you have dreamed of for a long time, and do not succumb to the pressure of society. Each person must find in his life that which will truly bring him happiness. Afraid of change? You will have to somehow overcome this, since you are unlikely to be able to achieve happiness in other ways.

Stop living the same situations every day, because life will pass like one day, and you won't even have time to look back.

Become an initiator of change in own life and you will see how everything changes for the better.

Many people just don't know where to start, because starting from scratch is always difficult. But, we will be happy to help you start this process.

Specifically: a few will help you with this. practical advice that will lead you to your main goal - happiness.

How to change your life for the better - where to start

Every day we make grandiose plans about how cool our life can turn in one click of our fingers.

But, for some reason, we think that this can happen by itself, and nothing needs to be done for this. Money will fall from the sky tomorrow at noon, and a new apartment will appear out of nowhere exactly one year later. No, it doesn't work that way.

At least - only in exceptional cases. If you really want change, then everything depends on you, and only on you.

When we come to the idea that such a development of events does not suit us, we usually set up a million plans for ourselves, which in the morning will be forgotten like a dream.

But, by the evening, thoughts will return again, at the same time, you will reproach yourself that you are not able to cope with this on your own, to achieve what was planned.

In this way, a person gradually falls into depression, constantly reproaching himself for all the troubles that happened to him. Therefore, when the first such thoughts appear, you just need to start acting.

Set yourself a clear goal that will guide you in the process of resolving all your problems.

What should be the first steps?

Surely everyone has heard this phrase “Do you want to change your life? Begin with yourself". It seems clear to everyone, although few have an idea of ​​how to do this.

Breaking yourself, of course, is not worth it, but you should still make some changes in your own habits. Trust me, it will make your life so much easier.

In addition, you must clearly represent the desired result, preferably visually, because only in this way the process of achieving this goal will not seem so difficult to you.

First, you need to decide on what specifically does not suit you, and only after that set the necessary goals.

1. Conduct a small analysis of your own life, while recording only those points that need to be corrected. Some of them require only minor edits, while others need to be fixed once and for all. The results of the analysis are best written on a piece of paper, because it is visual perception that is most effective. So, you will already see the solution to each problem.

1. Consider each point in more detail, while identifying the reason for the desired changes, as well as the means that will help in implementing the same changes. In addition, the list must necessarily contain negative points that brought you to this state. Write them down on paper and immediately cross them out as if you were crossing them out of your life.

After you face your problems, the solution to each of them is immediately apparent. And determining a solution is already half the battle, albeit quite easy.

So, you can highlight for yourself what is important, and the excess can simply be thrown out of life.

In addition, you can add a few feasible desires to your list that will help you find happiness.

You may not have noticed, but the first step has already been taken, which means there is no way back. A difficult path awaits you, which will be full of various difficulties and obstacles, but this should not stop you.

When it seems to you that you have no more strength, remember where you were from the beginning, and this will help you achieve your goal. After all, no one wants to go back to the original, right?

In order not to fall again into the abyss of problems and depression, you need to listen to some advice from psychologists that will make you fight for your happiness.

Psychologist's advice - how to change yourself and achieve positive changes in life

The most important thing is to know how to change yourself. So, any goal implies drawing up a specific plan to achieve it. It is necessary to take into account all the factors affecting the situation, which we will do.

Drawing up a detailed plan

It is necessary to consider each point of the plan, because this is the only way you can come to the achievement of your goal.

Put everything on the shelves, especially when your head is in complete chaos. A well-written plan in your head will become a reflection of the instructions written on paper.

This method will help you put things in order not only in your head, but also in your life.

Let's say you want to lose a fairly large number of pounds, but do not know how to do it correctly.

Write down on paper all the factors that can, in one way or another, affect the result.

1. Obstacles. Psychologists advise starting from this point, because it will be the farthest from the result. Thus, you cannot stop just before the goal is fully achieved. In other words, you are initially preparing yourself for the fact that the path will be full of obstacles.

1. Help. At this point, you need to describe the means that will help you cope with the problem. She took second place so that you do not think that you will have to cope with obstacles on your own.

Help can usually be obtained from outside. For example, in the matter of losing weight, a nutritionist or trainer will be the best assistant.

Well, if you yourself can cope with such questions, then the Internet and special literature will come to your aid.

1. Actions. Actually, it is this point that separates you from the result. Psychologists call it the "control jerk." Only your actions will lead you to the desired result, therefore, in this paragraph, you should write down a list of those actions that will be most effective in achieving your goal.

1. Result. You should clearly see what you get for your efforts. Here you write your desires that can come true if you force yourself to do something. In general, this point will be your incentive.

The unknown always scares a person, because it can stop him on the way to his goal. But, if you draw up a plan in which even possible obstacles will be painted, then this path may seem much easier to you.

Programming yourself to achieve the best result

If on your way you encounter such an obstacle as a bad mood or lack of confidence in your abilities, then you need to drive it away from yourself by any means.

Do something that always cheers you up: listen to your favorite music album or surf the Internet in search of motivational articles.

Or just re-read the list once again, and stop your gaze on the last paragraph.

When you feel like you’re about to give up, remember what you’re all doing this for. And how disappointing it will be to go back to where you started.

At this stage, only negative can prevent us, which means that we must urgently get rid of it.

And for this, you should heed the following advice:

✔ Avoid conflict situations that can ruin your mood.

✔ If it so happened that a quarrel happened to you, then try to find a compromise. This will make it easier to forget about what happened in order to regain your decisive attitude.

✔ Learn to enjoy the little things. Look for pluses even in the worst situation, and then it will be easier for you to cope with difficulties.

✔ Let go of any past grudges that keep you from moving on. Let go of the past and live only for today.

Sometimes even a slight deterioration in mood can ruin all plans. Therefore, try to ignore all provoking factors and think only positively.

Bad habits out of new life

Such words make us associate only with smoking and alcohol. But, do not be limited only to these habits, because there are still so many human sins with which we, in fact, live.

So, your life will become much easier if you get rid of these bad habits:

✔ The use of a mat in normal conversation.

✔ Chronic sleep deprivation that reduces your performance.

✔ Failure to keep promises.

✔ Laziness.

✔ Putting off until tomorrow what you can do today.

✔ Overeating is gluttony.

✔ Spending a long time on the couch in front of the TV.

✔ Continuous gameplay on the phone.

✔ Ignoring the performance of hygiene procedures (unwashed head).

✔ Damage to the manicure with your own teeth (do not bite your nails).

This is just a rough list of the most common bad habits, so everyone will have their own.

Of course, you cannot cope with such a volume in one day, and it is unlikely that it will end well. You need to act gradually, and then you will really be able to overcome them.

Open up to your loved ones

In times of depression, it may seem to you that living alone is better, and communication with other people is not necessary.

But, most likely, your stay in this state is due to the absence of loved ones who would hardly allow such a situation.

Therefore, your best bet is to follow these tips:

✔ Don't hide from people when they offer you their help when they see that you feel bad. It is worth listening to friends' opinions about the issue that bothers you.

In addition, if a good friend of yours is a fairly confident person who always achieves his goal, then all the more you should talk with him.

✔ Chat with your friends as much as possible. Nobody forces you to tell everyone about your problems. Non-intrusive communication with close friends can help you distract yourself from your problems, and just have a good time.

Hobbies as the best distraction

If you already have a favorite pastime, but you simply did not have enough time for it, then it's time to return to it.

We spend a lot of time and energy on unloved work or some ordinary things, and therefore, practically nothing remains for ourselves.

So why not set aside at least an hour or two for drawing, or playing the guitar? Do what will bring you positive emotions.

And then all the previously important problems will seem so insignificant to you.

By the way, if you want real positive emotions then playing sports is perfect for you.

10 tips on how to change your life for the better - where to start

Each person in his own way perceives the goal. Someone, not seeing obstacles, goes to her, and to someone she seems so unattainable that it can even cause fear.

But, we must understand that you can be afraid of something all your life, and having achieved nothing in the end. Therefore, act immediately so as not to regret it later.

1. Eat right. In fact, it is food that supports the vital activity of our body, which means that the quality of our health depends on it. And we are talking not only about physical health, because, as the saying goes, "A healthy mind is in a healthy body." Therefore, just filter your diet by getting rid of unhealthy foods.

1. Learn other languages. There is no age limit for such an activity, so don't even think to "deny". Learning a new foreign language will not only be beneficial for general development, but can also come in handy when traveling to another country. But, it is not necessary to teach new language... Get busy improving the good old of English language, because it will definitely help you in the future.

1. Read more. This is not about fashion magazines, but about professional literature. Expand your knowledge and develop skills in your field of work. Or re-read the classics of Russian and foreign literature, if the scientific style is not for you.

1. Weekends should be spent actively. Recently, people have become completely rooted in tablets and computers, and about active rest everyone had completely forgotten. Because of this, there is a lack of new experiences. Therefore, try to spend your free time outdoors with friends, and preferably for some active activity.

1. Create a simple notebook called a "diary" in which you can express all your feelings. Seeing any problems on paper, you can analyze them, and therefore come to a solution. Well, if there is a desire to make money, then your own problems can help you with this. Start a blog where you can share your personal experiences with other people. Perhaps other people can help you get through this difficult period.

1. Learn to manage your time. Do not leave important matters for "later", because we all understand perfectly well that this "later" will come only when it gets very hot. This means that this snowball will only grow every day, causing you to panic. Naturally, at the last moment you will not be able to redo all your affairs, which will make you extremely unhappy with yourself.

1. Refuse to spend too long time on the Internet, and indeed at the computer. Usually this activity takes up a lot of time, which flies by at great speed. Better to take a walk at this time on the street with friends, or read a book. Any other activity will bring you much more unforgettable emotions than sitting at the computer.

1. Don't get hung up on the news. Of course, everyone should be aware of everything that is happening in the world, but you should not follow it all the time. We can learn the most important news from friends, and everything else will only bother you.

1. Wake up as early as possible. Sleeping before lunch not only takes up a lot of time, but it also does you no good, except for a headache. Waking up early, you will be able to have time to do all the things you have planned before the onset of the day. Thus, your day off will last much longer than usual.

1. Travel and it will help you change your life. Nobody says that you need to immediately go to extremes and urgently fly to Africa. It's easy enough to travel to another city, or to a completely different part of the country. Even such a short trip will bring you a lot of vivid emotions.

All of these ways will help you get started new life, but this will only happen if you really want it.

After all, we often only complain about our life, but we are not even going to do anything to make it change at least a little for the better.

Set a specific goal for yourself, and go towards it, ignoring obstacles, and in no case looking back.

There comes a time when you get tired of putting up with your laziness, weakness, stupidity! I would like to take and become a new person who does not complain, fulfills promises and strives for the best. How to radically change yourself and be ready to always grow to a new maximum? How to live a free and joyful life? Why are the questions “what can I do” and “how can I be successful” so important? What is success? From this point on, a complete reboot of the mindset begins. It is enough to read the article, and you will begin the first steps on the path to success with the greatest dedication.

How can you change yourself?

When does a new stage of life begin? With the advent of fundamental changes that replace old habits. How does this happen? The desire to change oneself arises when life fundamentally ceases to suit a person. The willingness to grow to a new level, and to test their own potential does not come to many. Everyone needs time to fully realize the value of their own life. Some may need a personal mentor to give motivational kicks. Some of them themselves make their way to the top of their personal "Everest".

And yourself, if the importance of any changes is not felt? It means that the moment has not yet come when life becomes unbearable, and everything around is going awry. According to psychologists, the moment "F" (or full "F") in life either completely clogs a person into a remote corner, or radically changes his way of thinking. At work, there are constant conflicts and pay little, this has deteriorated health ... but the person continues to follow the same path. Excess weight makes it difficult to bend down ... but the person does not reduce his appetite.

How to change yourself for the better when no emotional breakthrough occurs? You need to feel an urgent need for a cherished goal, otherwise the decision will not be made. It is important to apply the rule: "After the cessation of inner experiences, it is important not to calm down and follow the chosen scenario to a new goal." What's the point? Make a final decision and change yourself comprehensively, without arranging the drama "oh, how can I be?"

How to change yourself for the better?

Before considering the steps "How to completely change yourself", consider an example life situation, in which there are millions of people. It demonstrates a person's ability to adapt to any situation and not stop on the path to a better life.

The girl's life was going downhill - at that time she did not work yet, had a 2-year-old daughter, and her life was spent on her husband's little patch. Gradually, the marriage went to a complete collapse due to constant scandals, reproaches, mistrust. In a situation of depression, the girl lost many friends, colleagues, and her status as a housewife aggravated the picture of the world. The last straw was her husband's periodic trips to the left. In the wake of an emotional outburst, she makes a sober decision - a divorce. Tomorrow the husband became an ex, and his things were scattered with him through the front door.

And myself in such a situation when with you Small child, no work, are there some debts? The girl takes her will into a fist, ceases to live with thoughts of parting, a difficult fate. Three days later, the once unemployed housewife goes to work for the first time with a full baggage of enthusiasm.

According to her, she drew strength from the thought of a bright future. It is important that the girl did not waste her free minute on empty affairs. She managed to combine home, work, raising her daughter and also study literature for motivation. Soon she didn't even have a trace of debt. In the wake of the surge of internal energy, she restored her former connections with friends and met many open people.

How to change yourself when everything seems to fall into place? Feel the need to move even higher! After such a turning point, the girl began to feel depressed. A chain of shocks and searches brought her to a new stage in her life. For more than 7 years, she has not worked for the boss, is engaged in remote work on the Internet, and is constantly traveling.

She said: “Once you have experienced frustration, stress, total collapse, never give up. Change yourself through a strong push in personal growth. Life will never remain the same, but will only fill in all the missing puzzles. " Everyone in life has situations from which you want to close yourself and not go out into the light. You should never do that! No matter how difficult a person's biography is, the truth remains his desire to get out of the barbed wire.

1. Change your way of thinking.

“Change the direction of your thoughts - change your life beyond recognition!” - with this motto you need to enter a new stage in your history. Not everyone can realize that thoughts, habits, character, situations are hidden. Some people see the world in gloomy tones, while others see the meaning of their existence and do not whine about trifles. Thoughts in the head build an attitude to the situation, and the situation makes a person stand or move.

2. Start reading a lot of useful literature.

Yes! Read books about personal growth, autobiographies of cult personalities, psychology, and not look at glossy magazines and solve crossword puzzles. and yourself, when the mind simply degrades? Set aside time for one book once a week. Over time, the personal collection will be filled, and the volume of knowledge will grow into new achievements. It is important to draw information selectively - not everything is suitable for a specific situation in life. It is important to work on literature in detail, finding secrets for resolving a dispute, a psychological barrier, and another exciting moment.

3. Get rid of addictions.

It is built from habits, and this is already worth thinking about. The desire to change yourself is more than watching your favorite programs, photos on social media. networks? It is worth limiting such detrimental factors that are wasting valuable time. To be guaranteed to develop a habit, it is enough to apply the "21 days" practice. This technique aims to neutralize the impact of unnecessary actions on the way of life. How to change yourself physically? Develop a habit of periodically exercising. How to feel a surge of energy and start being active? Refuse alcohol intake, smoking, do not eat junk food, just drink clean water and sleep well.

4. Invest in your future.

How to change yourself for the better financially? Learn how to properly manage funds. The scheme of effective redistribution of money was described in his books by Robert Kiyosaki. To quickly save up for the purchase of real estate, a car, education, it is worth saving only 10% of total income. it Golden Rule solves the age-old problem with money. The habit of wasting everything and not caring about the future lives in many.

Investing in yourself is the best investment in a confident future. You shouldn't save money on trainings, self-education, literature. Personality is the most working asset. Knowledge is always highly valued, and the ability to win is priceless!

5. Do not postpone everything for later.

Emergency care cannot wait even an extra minute when human health is at stake. This example works in practice when we think about irrevocably improving the way of life. How can you change yourself if you put off important things in a distant box? It won't work! The habit (about them again) of slacking and making tomorrow never works! Self-control and discipline are important here. You can try the carrot-and-stick rule. If you complete important things in the first place, or even better to do them in a short time, you can go to the cinema for your favorite movie. If you go shopping, and then in a hurry to do a task - a week without going out with friends. It really works!

6. Broaden your horizons and connect with successful people.

Human behavior, his thinking and character depend on the environment. What is in the head and is reflected in reality is the merit of the people around. Someone who constantly interacts with whiners, angry, pessimists has little chance of succeeding. How to change yourself for the better with successful people? It is worth limiting the influence of "harmful" people, as the ability to think soberly immediately comes. Acquaintance with interesting personalities which are more successful by several levels? This is the secret of many aspiring entrepreneurs and lecturers.

7. Positive thinking is the basis of development.

Under the pressure of general pessimism, fear of any changes, the absence of starting everything at all is born! You can change yourself in a positive way if you do not perceive the world negatively. The rule is "as easy as shelling pears" and it works with incredible power!

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Each of us at least once in our life thought about the question: how to change our life for the better. As usual, it all started either on Monday, or on New Years, etc. That day came, but ... nothing happened. And even if the first timid steps were taken, then all this quickly faded away and rolled back to the stage of intentions and dreams put on the back burner. Isn't it awful?

In this post, you will learn about ten fundamental steps that must be taken to make the planned changes in life irreversible. It will really help change your life. Moreover, if you do not take at least one of these steps, the chances of making the necessary changes in life are significantly reduced. By studying these steps, you can see where you made mistakes when you tried to change your life. These steps are applicable in any area of ​​life, whether it is mastering a new profession, working on your health and physical fitness, getting an education, etc.

First, a little background information that will help you better understand what is going on here.

The human psyche is a very stable thing. On the one hand, this allows you to maintain the integrity of your personality, professional skills, accumulate knowledge, etc. On the other hand, resilience hinders change. And sometimes it interferes so much that even vital changes come with a terrible creak.

But changes in modern conditions are necessary to just stay afloat, and even more so if you understand the importance of growth and development of yourself. We can confidently say that nothing shines for a person in life if he does not constantly work on himself, does not develop and does not acquire new skills and habits. However, the stability of the psyche poses many serious obstacles to change. How to overcome these obstacles and get what you need?

There is an exit. It is necessary to learn new things, master new skills and knowledge. That is, you need to change yourself. You cannot get something qualitatively new in your life if you do what you are doing now. You will only get something new when you start acting differently, armed with new knowledge, skills and habits.

Step 1. Believe that you are the same as others. You are not unique.

No, no, this does not mean that you do not have any zest and uniqueness. This means that if one of the people managed to achieve something, then you can achieve the same and even surpass him. After all, he is only a man, like you. And he, like you, experienced difficulties, doubts, fear, lack of experience and knowledge, ridicule of others.

If you dream of a healthy fit body, you can achieve this. After all, many people already have it. If you want to quit smoking, you can do it.

However, one should bear in mind the downside of its non-uniqueness. Many people have failed to achieve what they want, and therefore, it can easily happen to you. If you act (or fail to act) the same way they do.

It is especially easy to achieve goals if you have many people you know who have already achieved it. If you are surrounded by such people, you will rise quickly. If there are many people around you who have not succeeded, it is highly likely that you will not succeed.

So, strive to stay close to people who already have what you want so much.

Study their books, strive to understand more deeply how they live, how they think, how they act.

Step 2. Start building new skills into your life.

This literally means that in your lifestyle there should be a place and time for the new, the very one that you so want to see in your life. It is imperative, and as soon as possible to find a place for this in your diary, on your desktop, in your computer, in your smartphone, etc.

There is an interesting psychological law, according to which, if within a few days (maximum, within a week) you do not take at least the very first and simple steps in the direction you are interested in, interest in this disappears. So desired begins to seem boring and uninteresting.

In order not to become a victim of this law and not to miss what can become the most fateful decision in your life, just appoint yourself a time in which you will do this. Do not think that it will happen somehow in between times. Will not work!

It is necessary to plan this and be sure to do it at the appointed time.

If you decide to study English, you should set aside at least half an hour or an hour for this every day, say, before going to bed. At this time, you just need to sit down at the table, read books, listen to notes, etc.

Decided to go jogging, plan to get up half an hour early and go to the stadium. It's time to run and nothing else!

If you have decided to change your diet for a healthier one, start changing the contents of your refrigerator today. Shop on the way home. And already today try a new dish that meets the new requirements ...

Step 3. Decide what to give up

Each person has only 24 hours a day, 6-10 of which he sleeps. You cannot fill this time with an endless number of things. Something will definitely not come in. Therefore, if you decide to introduce new habits and skills into your life, you should give up something in order to free up time and space for this new one. And, of course, it will be wise if you give up something that clearly interferes with the new and does not have much benefit.

You can get up half an hour earlier to run. But if you don't give up your TV for the night, I'm afraid your running endeavor will quickly fade away. You will not get enough sleep corny, and on this your hobby for jogging will quickly end before it even starts. Want to get up earlier? Then you just need to go to bed earlier! There are no other options!

To find time to learn English, you need to give up watching your favorite TV show (which, by the way, does not bring you closer to your goal). The time spent on it is wasted on entertainment. And this is not always so necessary.

A new skill should not become transverse to the usual life rut

And you need to think about how to intelligently build it, so that there are no insurmountable difficulties or the desire to give up everything and return to the original position.

Sometimes people try to combine completely opposite desires or try to squeeze into their lives what is clearly superfluous in it. I know people who "try" to start healthy life, start to run, do exercises, but also do not think about going to bed at the same time, giving up 30 cigarettes smoked a day and 10 cups of daily coffee. Meaning?

A person is given a sophisticated mind to find a suitable solution to cope with difficulties that at first glance seem insurmountable

Step 4. What you want to bring into your life should be joyful

It is completely pointless to try to exercise if you are not happy about it. You should not force yourself to learn a foreign language if it does not find at least the slightest joyful response in the depths of your soul.

As experience and scientific research show, any undertaking, if it is done through force (without obvious joy and interest), after a couple of months leads to the appearance of disgust.

Have you seen children who, after graduating from music school, do not even want to look at the piano? Exactly!

Do not even try to find "reasonable" reasons to start doing something if it does not resonate with joyful interest inside.

Don't waste your time. Do what you really want to do.

True, it must be said that there are elementary things that are still worth doing, despite the fact that they seem boring to some. For example, brushing your teeth, washing your face, at least sometimes reading books, physically moving, asking questions about your place in life. They bring very rich dividends. And you just have to be mentally ill to abhor such things ...

Step 5. Meet failure as a lesson in life

Have you tried something many times, but it didn't work out? Did you feel bad about the first (second, third) failure and have already decided that you are a failure? They made fun!

Failure is your best friend!

Attentive attitude to one's own failures, pondering their reasons, analysis is The best way achieve what you want. You always have one more chance.

Just analyze carefully why you failed. There are always clear reasons for failure.

Lost a boxing match? This means that the reaction is weak or the blow is not very fast. Can be corrected by training. You can't start eating right, although you know everything about it? See what gets in the way. Perhaps you need to talk to family members, remove obstructions, etc.

It is important to understand that failure can be accidental, or it can be the result of self-sabotage - an internal struggle with yourself (you wanted to fail from the very beginning).

Accidental failure can be caused by external reasons beyond your control or by strong emotional upheavals (a rush at work, an accident on the road, natural disasters). If the reason for your failure was a random factor, it is worth taking measures to reduce the likelihood of such failures in the future. And just move on.

In the case of self-sabotage, when you subconsciously resist change, it makes no sense to continue to act with the same methods. You need to find a different approach, change the time and place, find a different teacher, and generally make sure that you really want this. Maybe you are not satisfied with the way to achieve the goal, or maybe this goal is simply not deeply interesting to you ...

An intelligent person acts more wisely and effectively with each failure. Great and successful people have suffered a lot of failures in their time, but they made the right conclusions from them.

Step 6. Consider the pressure of the people around you

You can't even imagine how much people around you are interested in you when you start to change in the direction you need. And the first thing they start to do is persistent attempts to bring you back to their usual state.

Close and familiar people always have some plans for you and expect that you will behave in their usual way.

If you quit smoking, you will definitely be pulled into the smoking room to discuss important news. Moreover, you will feel that you simply have to smoke.

If you start changing your diet and try not to eat at night, there will definitely be someone who will cook insanely fragrant pastries in the evening. You can be sure!

If you start visiting gym, you will surely hear five hundred reasons not to do this with the scientific justification of the terrible harm to fitness from people who have never even tried to exercise!

You must understand that you will surely face such resistance. And you just need to show perseverance and firmness. And there is no need to explain anything to anyone and make excuses. Calmly and thoroughly do what you have planned. In a family, you can limit yourself to one serious conversation and explaining why you are doing this. Gradually, the pressure of others will disappear, and many will even begin to follow you when they see that you are achieving your goals.

Step 7: Reward Yourself for Even Small Success

Very often, real changes take place over a fairly long time. In almost all more or less serious things, noticeable changes occur in a few months. This applies to changes in figure during fitness, to knowledge of a foreign language, to mastering a difficult skill, such as blind typing or rapid reading.

And you just have to be a hero in order to make efforts for several months with almost no visible result. Therefore, reward yourself for even the smallest successes. Celebrate the weekly anniversary of starting your run 🙂 Celebrate the first hundred English words or mastering the grammatical forms of the English verb.

Give yourself a nice little gift to thank you for your efforts.

Buy yourself a cake, ice cream, cook your favorite dish, go to the movies, make a pleasant purchase ... It seems like a trifle, but it is very supportive on a long, sometimes difficult path. Your brain gets stimulated and approved by these gratitude. Ultimately, it will keep you motivated.

Step 8: Actively ignore doubts

In any undertaking, doubts are inevitable. No man escaped doubt when he started something new. Doubt is normal, especially when it comes to changing your life.

If you have not done something before, then you will be bad at it anyway. Until you fill your hand and get enough experience. It is natural.

But, beware of getting bogged down in doubt. This is a real swamp, from which it is very, very difficult to get out. Better not to step on it.

Try not to get too caught up in your failures and failures, which are simply inevitable at the beginning of the path of change. Just get up and move on. Do not allow yourself the thought that, they say, I can't do nifig, I can never, I did it badly again ... This is the path of the swamp. Every time you will fix your attention on the fact that you cannot do it. And you will quickly convince yourself that this is all useless. After all, you seem to have in your hands indisputable facts indicating that everything is going very badly. Thus, each new failure will convince you that you really will not succeed.

But in reality it is not so! With such thoughts, you simply stop your movement, deprive yourself of energy for further movement. But you want something completely different! Therefore, act anyway. Go to your goal, regardless of falls and setbacks. Moreover, failure is an excellent assistant on the way to the goal, as we said above.

It is difficult to imagine the number of people who spent all their energy on doubts, instead of persistently going towards their goal.

Decide for yourself whether you are doing it or not. And just take the steps you want.

Step 9. Take your time

Any new business is almost always very slow. This is natural, since you do not have the skills and sufficient knowledge. You have to master everything along the way and think over every little thing for a long time. This is a completely normal process.

When a beginner musician masters the first simple pieces, he must play them at a very slow pace, but very clearly and efficiently. This is fine. It takes time to develop the necessary neural connections and processes in the brain. And after a while the same musician, often unexpectedly for himself, is able to play this piece much faster.

If the musician tries to play this piece at once with the required speed, I'm afraid you will not appreciate this music. Moreover, as practice shows, this approach never leads to a high-quality performance of the work. That is, a musician spends hundreds of hours on rehearsals, but rushes events, not allowing the necessary skills to be formed correctly. The result is a complete marriage!

Therefore, you should not rush when starting a new business for yourself. Make sure that it starts to turn out at least a little. Reward yourself for this, let the skill grow stronger, do not rush to move on. Let the skill become sustainable. Then move on. Change your life gradually but persistently.

Don't try to run if you haven't really learned to crawl.

Give yourself all the time you need. And you don't have to bully yourself for being slow. Everyone has their own normal pace. Follow your pace.

And very soon you will realize that you are doing a new business very quickly and very efficiently.

Step 10. Overcome growing pains

When you start moving towards new achievements, mastering new skills and knowledge, you will inevitably face a situation where you are no longer the same person, but also not who you want to become. At this stage, you are, as it were, a semi-finished product.

If you decide to go in for sports, you are no longer the weak and sick person you were at the very beginning, but you are not an athlete yet (the muscles still look like funny bumps and ridiculous bumps on the body). You are on your way. And this state can be uncomfortable. You may feel discord, insecurity, discomfort, irritation. You cannot intelligibly answer the question of who you are now. This is a normal growing pain!

To overcome this uncomfortable state, just try to be your friend. Be mindful of yourself and try to act with awareness. Be aware that you are on the way to your goal. And believe that you will definitely achieve it. If you fail, tell yourself that yes, it happens, if there are successes, rejoice in it with all your heart.

The most important thing for you now is the fact of movement

You grow and develop. This is the main thing. Now you are a river flowing from source to mouth through steppes, deserts, mountains and forests. You do everything in your power to get things done. Apparently, there is nothing more worthy in life!

Understanding and clearly realizing that you are now on the move makes it much easier to cope with failures, the opinions of others and other difficulties.

Print and hang these steps over your desk. Memorize them, put them into practice every day, and changes in life will not be long in coming.