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At a certain period of life, every man has a question: "Is that the same girl next to me?" But how can we, girls, determine whether we are suitable for our chosen one or not? We will give 10 traits that should be in the chosen one, according to men:
10. She is independent:
No young man wants to have a nurse next to him. You, dear girls, should have your own affairs, interests. Sometimes it is useful to disappear for a short while, then your man will be bored without you and will understand that you are the one and only one.
8. She's sexy:
For men, a sexy girl is always compatible with them. For example, he wants you to be a fatal seductress, and you appear in girlishly cute pink panties with ruffles - then this is a problem ... The dream girl understands her partner, is ready to play along with him and reveal a spicy secret for him.
7. She is beautiful:
Men will say this is very important. But soulfulness and beauty are not always the same. Understanding and sensitivity can never be replaced with a bouncy curl and long legs. Although we agree, appearance matters.
6. She respects her man:
This point is important. This means that the girl of dreams will listen to the man, even when she does not agree with what he said. And, of course, she will not humiliate and underestimate his abilities in any field of activity.
5. She allows you to be a man:
Sometimes we women want to get men to do what we want: eat low-fat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast, not go to an evening poker with friends, not watch football. But let them win a little victory. Better yet, prepare his favorite sandwiches and bring a jar of his favorite drink, then he will appreciate it and understand that you are what he was looking for.
4. She is not grumpy:
There is nothing worse than whining, nagging and grumbling, men think so. A wise girl does not shout or wash if she is not satisfied with something. True, if you live together, a man leaves for the night, does not speak anywhere and does not call, of course, the girl expresses her displeasure. But this situation does not fit here.
3. She gets along with the man's friends and family:
The dream girl will not only help his mom in the kitchen, listen to his dad's stories, chat with his friends, but she will also enjoy it. She will genuinely try to get to know and love the most important people in her man's life.
2. She loves you:
If a man finds a girl who will love him and not demand anything in return, he will try to keep her near him. After all, such a girl is difficult to find. A luminous look, an easy gait, a desire to help, sincere joy at a sudden call - all this will betray a person in love.
1. She makes him the best man in the world:
The girl doesn't have to say that. It's just that a man will feel it, being with such a woman. This is called LOVE!
Deep down, every man is a hunter. The stronger sex loves to stalk, so let him do it. Let him hunt you. Never give in to him right away, even if you really like him. First you need to make it so that it belongs only to you. Make it difficult for him to catch you. Take time for him one time and pretend unavailable another. Let him know that he is not the only one in your life. It will be better this way, because being the only one you think about is not the most pleasant role for a man. Don't cling to it like a vine. Obsession is your enemy.
Become a mystery to him
Do not reveal all your cards to him. Try to create an aura of mystery around you. Tell us about yourself, but a little. Leave the rest to his imagination. Many women love to fantasize. Men do the same. When there is an understatement, it leaves room for imagination. He will dream of you, and you will become, if not the girl of his dreams, then the heroine in his fantasies.
Make friends with his friends
While it may sound ridiculous, many men put women on friendship tests. This means that they want to test how you get along with their friends. It's a childish and teenage fad, but male friendships are a fact to come to terms with. Even if his friends are obnoxious, you will set yourself apart from other girls and women by taking up the challenge. Outsmart him by having a beer with his friends. You will become desirable not only in him, but also in their eyes. And the whole company will understand that you are your boyfriend.
Take an interest in what worries him
Your boyfriend's status implies that you are as interested in sports as he is. If in a conversation with him you unobtrusively mention a couple of facts about football or about who won the World Cup last year, you will grow significantly in his eyes. You might like it yourself.
Be a woman
Jeans and a ponytail on the head are, of course, comfortable. But a little black dress, heels and beautiful curls look much more feminine. Remember that men love with their eyes. Become for a while a seductive goddess who is pleasant to dream of.
Love is a lifelong journey. And the most important secret of the girl of his dreams is to be yourself. For some reason he liked you. Too much zeal and desire to impress will ruin your image, and you yourself will feel uncomfortable.
Men like to be confident, but they like confident women even more. And most of all men love it when a woman is good and having fun with them. Have fun and you will become the best companion
In women, negative things happen due to internal dissatisfaction with themselves. We want to be prettier, smarter, richer, more successful with men, but we can't. We admire Hollywood actresses, world famous models, girlfriends, but somehow not ourselves.
Admiring yourself, becoming your idol is possible! Of course, for this you should make an effort and go a certain way. But the game is worth the candle. Checked!
Below are tips for self-improvement. I called the set of these steps "The Way to Myself".
1. Write down what kind of woman you would like to become
Start with looks, how much do you want to weigh, what hair, teeth, posture. What are you wearing, what makeup are you wearing.
For me, the standard of impeccable style is the current first lady of the United States, Melania Trump. I highly recommend looking at her looks.
Then write down the attitude of people towards you: admire, want to be like, love to be around, proud, admire.
Then write down all the feelings that you are already the same woman: what you feel, how life has changed, who is around, what kind of job and salary, where you are, what you dream about.
I wrote down my text in a beautiful notebook, I try to keep it close at hand. It helps a lot when strength and inspiration leave me.
“I am beautiful: I have a slender figure, a flat toned belly, slender legs, a large elastic chest, thin arms, an even face shape, a straight back. I am stylishly dressed, I have the opportunity to buy clothes from the world's leading brands, I have beautifully styled hair, I always smile (with beautiful white even teeth). People admire me: the fact that I always do everything, always in a great mood. I am the perfect combination of intelligence and beauty. I am happy because I live in absolute harmony with myself. I enjoy and am proud of the woman I see in the mirror, because it reflects my ideal. "
2. Set clear goals
Identify at least three areas in which you would like to develop.
For instance:
- Professional - I want to become an actress.
- Appearance - I want to lose 10 kg by August 2019.
- Intellectual - I want to learn French.
Break each goal down into small steps. Do something from this list every day. In order not to forget anything, get a habit tracker.
For instance:
- I drive in the car and do speech exercises.
- I do the press 30 times in the morning.
- I learn ten new French words every day.
Write down different options, suddenly a couple of free minutes will appear, and you can spend them usefully.
3. Invest in yourself!
A big goal requires a lot of investment: mental, physical, emotional. Read more books. I love books on motivation, psychology and biographies of interesting people.
My list of books that I have read and am very happy with:
- Larisa Renard.
- Larisa Renard.
- Jen Sinsero "NICE".
- Eric Weiner "How I Became Famous Thin Rich Happy Me".
- Mila Tumanova "A woman begins with a body."
- Mikhail Labkovsky "I want and will."
- Vadim Zeland "Reality Transurfing" (all parts).
- John Gray Men are from Mars Women are from Venus.
- Petr Ploskov "The Power of Instagram".
List of books that I want to read in the near future:
- Larisa Renard.
- Larisa Renard.
- Andrey Kurpatov "Happy of my own free will."
- Lev Vozhevatov "Male view of relationships".
- Bertrand Russell "In Search of Happiness".
4... Learn foreign languages
Knowledge of languages \u200b\u200bexpands the range of opportunities and communication. For example, I like to read books in the original and believe that this is the only way to understand the author's thought to the end.
You can learn languages \u200b\u200bboth for free and in case of an acute shortage of time.
- TV series.
- YouTube channels in English.
- Songs in the playlist.
- Applications.
- Correspondence on social networks.
- Dating in Tinder.
- Etc.
5. Believe in yourself!
Even when everyone is laughing, even when it doesn't work out, even when the whole world is against it!
Remember, people are jealous of what you can assert, and they are not. I love Lady Gaga's saying:
“Of course, people don't like it when you are not like them. They will make fun of you for a long time, condemn, humiliate you, but all this comes from envy. They cannot do the same as you, they lack the spirit. It's easier to call someone a psycho than to admit that you are afraid to distinguish yourself from the crowd. "
6. Act, praise yourself for your actions and reward!
Such small steps. You will see that you will be very proud of yourself, you will realize that you are moving in the right direction.
"Victory Log" to help you! Write down every little thing and reward yourself: for a small step with a small gift, for a big one - with a big one.
Pamper yourself, arrange for yourself Beauty Days. Even in Moscow it is not very expensive. For example, I am an active user of the Dry and Go Bar format: you can do styling for 990 rubles in just half an hour.
A visit to the spa at least once a month should become a good tradition. Do you think it's expensive? Myth! Google Biglion coupons.
7. End the day with meditation
Have you noticed that there are girls that guys literally line up for? So what is their secret of seduction? Unfortunately, there is no magic drink that will make you incredibly attractive, and there is no specific workout regimen that guarantees you love from all the guys. But there are some tricks that can help you become the dream of most guys.
Steps
Become more attractive
- Find your best personality traits and use every opportunity to showcase them. For example, if you have the ability to be compassionate, you can volunteer. If you are very responsible, try becoming a class leader.
- If you think you need to work on something, that's okay! For example, if you are very shy, try to work on yourself and become a little more open person. If you are hot-tempered, learn to control yourself.
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Take care of yourself. You don't have much of an impact on your appearance, but some research has shown that people look much more attractive when they take good care of themselves. Take time to take care of yourself. Here are some basic guidelines to follow to look more attractive:
- Take a shower every day
- Style your hair
- Brush your teeth
- Wear only clean clothes
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Try to highlight your best character traits. Men's preferences for a woman's figure and appearance in general vary greatly, so try not to dwell on any one photo in a magazine. Instead, try to accept your appearance and shape and try to emphasize your virtues.
Put on something red. Women who dress in red are more attractive to some men. You don't have to wear red clothes all the time to avoid becoming a habit. Just wear a red blouse from time to time, try wearing jewelry or accessories in red tones.
- If you want, you can add something red to your daily outfit, like red lipstick, red earrings, or a red scarf.
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Wear high heels from time to time. High heels generally make women more desirable and attractive to men. High heels are quite uncomfortable, but they can be worn on special occasions, such as dancing or some event. You can try wearing shoes with lower heels.
Listen to your emotions. You don't need to be too emotional when you first meet a person. But you also shouldn't be too “cold”, making the person feel uncomfortable with you. Too much emotion can also scare off a new acquaintance. Try to be calm and balanced. Thus, you will become more mysterious in the eyes of the guy, which will undoubtedly play into your hands.
- For example, don't jump or clap your hands if he asks you out on a date. Better to just smile and say, “Yes, that sounds tempting. What are you up to? "
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Leave the event early.
Show all the beauty of your personality. Positive traits in your character overshadow negative physical traits and increase the attraction of the opposite sex. For example, a guy who likes skinny girls may suddenly turn his attention to a slightly overweight girl if she has a great personality. Try to understand your positive personality traits and show them to the world!
So what does it turn out to be, it's unrealistic to become a woman of dreams? Not certainly in that way.
The fact is that all this variety of male wishes, what a dream woman should be, often comes down to two simple things:
A man should be comfortable living with a woman under one roof.
A man should be pleased (not ashamed) to go out with a woman.
There is also a third point, but more on that later.
A man may declare that the woman of his dreams must certainly cook borscht well, but believe me, no borscht will save a relationship if a woman nags a man every evening about scattered socks, an improperly hung towel, or a mug that has not been washed after herself. Because, despite the delicious borscht, living with such a woman is uncomfortable for a man.
Or here's another example. Let's say a man dreams of a long-legged model, but everyone gets used to the appearance of a partner over time. In a couple of years, her long legs will become as familiar to him as brushing teeth in the morning. And if a woman, besides long legs, no longer has any advantages, then living together with her will be more boring than books from the school curriculum.
However, if you think that it is enough just to become what a man needs, you are wrong. If you adapt to his needs, you will not become a woman of dreams, but simply as comfortable as a sofa. And they don't fall in love with sofas. And here we come to the third point, which is important to observe so that men dream of you:
A man should appreciate a woman, not take her for granted.
So what do you do to be appreciated?
Be a person
If you, like a trained dog, follow all the commands of a man, then he will never be able to see a person in you, which means he will not appreciate it. For there is nothing. No one will appreciate and respect a person just for the humble offering of dinner and washing things. You must have a character that is important to show at the initial stage of dating. A normal man needs a companion, ally, partner, but not a servant, even if he earns dozens of times more than you.
Don't forget about life outside of your relationship.
No need to give up all affairs and plans, as soon as a decent man looms on the horizon. He will not appreciate and respect you if for the sake of him you abandon your friends, study, work, relatives and rush to him to the ends of the world, as soon as an SMS from him lights up on the phone screen. A man falls in love with a woman in her absence, and not when she is constantly around.
Be a little bit unapproachable
Of course, you do not need to mock a man and make him crawl on his knees after you. Tea, not a princess. But let him feel at least a little like a real man, a hunter, a conqueror. Let his interest in you show, do not jump on his neck on the second day of meeting. Little complications won't hurt him.
Watch yourself
This does not mean that you should always be in the parade and fully armed, but taking care of yourself should be an integral part of your life. Firstly, this makes you better, and secondly, the man will see that you love yourself, groom, do not spit on your appearance, which means that he will love you himself. I have said many times that if you do not care about yourself, then why would others appreciate you?
Don't be indifferent to his interests
Nobody forces you to go to football matches, but you cannot remain indifferent to his life either. If you don’t know what he does for a living, you don’t know what he loves and what he hates, is not able to support with words in difficult times, then why does he need you at all?
Don't be boring
You can be very smart and interesting in communication, but if you are a chronic bore, then no one wants a serious relationship with you. Bores are annoying. And if your sense of humor is also lame, then that's all - you can give yourself up!
Develop self-confidence
Decent men choose self-confident women, because it is boring to communicate with insecure, it is impossible to fall in love with them, you can only feel sorry for them. And as a rule, unethical men stick to such women. Are you looking for unethical men? I doubt it.
When a woman is as simple as a felt boot, she does not arouse interest. Well, or arouse the interest of someone whose hobbies are limited to football on TV and beer on Fridays. If you have a busy life, work, hobby, then you will attract the appropriate men. Those who want to become a part of this interesting life. Winning a simpleton is not a tricky business, but getting an interesting woman is a completely different matter.
