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Good afternoon, dear BroDude editors! I’ve been with you recently and may not be in the age category for which most of your articles were created (I’m only 20), but I always try to get the most out of what you write. And for the most part I succeed, for which special thanks. The only thing that interests me, and that I could not find: what to do if your girlfriend is too notorious and too conservative in terms of sex? If you describe the whole situation in 2 words, then I am her first, sex for her is a satisfaction of needs and nothing more. Accordingly, from the very beginning, it was reduced only to simple manipulations, which were already pretty boring. She does not pay attention to what I want, while I do absolutely everything that pleases her (not because she dominates and demands, no, just because I myself like to please her). After the time that we are with her, I just lose the desire to try and the desire to have sex with her disappears, which is not cool. I would like to hear some advice to balance this "sexual inequality" and, accordingly, our relationship. Thanks in advance!
Hello my friend. Don't worry, at the age of 20, people inherited thrones and ruled countries, so age most often speaks only of how many years ago a person's parents had unsafe sex. If you really try to get the most out of our articles, then you are morally older than your peers. We have nothing to do with these carbonated pisyuny, but we will bring you to mind. A joke, of course. We are open to everyone who remembers such programs as "Spite of Records" and "Finest Hour".
Well, now to your problem. Although what a problem there, frankly, a trifle. It is clear that due to your youth and inexperience, you are a little confused. This is normal, at 20 we ourselves thought that cunnilingus was a surname, metrosexuals have sex on the subway, and working as a porn actor is fun and pleasant. In fact, everywhere, and especially in intimate life, experience is welcome. The poems of the classic come to mind:
Ha-ha da hee-hee, but I did everything badly - No taste, no tact, no technique. It would be better to read books, you fool, Poems and textbooks on sex! But nobody reads books, and thank God, they take away our readers. In general, remember yourself at the beginning of your genitourinary career, when you timidly invaded other people's caves, recalling the dashing movements from your favorite porn. There were a lot of digging in you, but the implementation let us down - for sure groaned like a dwarf from Snow White. It seems to all of us that we, in general, are nothing, and we may be told that we have shown ourselves from the best side. But more often they say this so as not to offend, especially since the overall impression remained strictly positive, but some of our decisions and movements caused confusion, we just did not notice it in the heat of love. And sometimes you just do the same forward movements - no imagination, no tact, no bold decisions. We attach ourselves behind - and monotonously groove our beloved, characteristically snoring. And she seems to be experienced, you seem to have sex as long as you live, it seems that there are as many bed battles behind you as pilots-aces of sorties, but still she was not surprised. So this is about an experienced person, let alone beginners. However, it is much worse when a person during his sexual experience has not learned anything but monotonous translational movements in one direction. His sex can be shown instead of "Good night, babes" so that children fall asleep faster. And why? Because they did not teach the person, and the partners, instead of pointing out mistakes, either tolerated or broke off the relationship. So you have about the same situation. Your woman has just started her creative career in great sex. She did not have an innate talent for this discipline, and therefore she is complex, not fully understanding what sex is. He only knows that this is when one loving person penetrates into another, and that's it. Therefore, try to increase the frequency of your intercourse. The more of it, the more she will begin to be drawn into this business. The girl must be taught to try in different ways, to say how sexy she is, how you want her, so that she relaxes. Then he will fall in love with this business so much that you can't drag it by the ears. Everyone was clumsy at first, but you, as a more experienced partner, must take the initiative. Plus, sexual preference is a practical matter. And what can be determined by partners who, apart from missionary, have not tried anything?
In general, it is worth talking to her frankly. Asking what is wrong, maybe it's all about you, not her. Or she is simply frigid, and no matter how hard you try, no matter how hard you sweat, there will be no sense. And then you decide for yourself whether to stay with such a woman or not. Or maybe you upset her with your ineptitude. And what if she is inexperienced, maybe she has an innate talent? Most importantly, do not hesitate to say what you want. Just not like this: “Today I’ll put you on your belly, tie you up, fuck you, and you’ll scream and say what you like.” Softer. The more you suggest new poses and solutions, the faster she herself will begin to take the initiative. In the meantime, do not wait for this, because there is a golden rule: the less people copulate, the more they are shy of sex. Ease the young lady, you have the same mission as the shepherd - to teach, accustom and use for personal purposes. As psychoanalysts who charge 100 euros for a session like to say: “You need to open up,” suddenly it turns out that she likes a tough guy, BDSM, and only screams, convulsions and spasms will lead her to orgasm and make her surrender to the process by 150%. But this does not mean that you need to take a whip and go to it - if I had been beaten and raped during the 3rd sexual intercourse, I would hardly have continued to do this. If there are not enough ideas for sex, then seek help from porn. There they will tell and show everything, surprise with unusual solutions and resourcefulness. By the way, it is possible that watching low-quality videos together will liberate both of you, but this is not certain. And most importantly, don't do it yourself. Try, work selflessly and zealously. And then the partner, seeing how you are devoted to the work, will herself want to surprise and please.
The other extreme is the excessive emancipation and assertiveness of the woman and her frivolous attitude towards casual relationships.
In the second half of the last century, a sexual revolution swept the world. One of the most notable consequences of this was that women stopped hiding their sexuality. If earlier the fair sex could not take the initiative in relations with a man, then in the last third of the twentieth century it became possible.
Women realized that the fact that the physical side of the relationship is no less important for them than for men is no shame, and they stopped keeping silent about their desires. I wonder how men relate to sexually liberated girls and women and do they approve of such behavior?
Women without complexes
On the one hand, many men, in some cases, are still shy and may not be sure whether they should take the initiative in order to get acquainted with the girl they like. Under such circumstances, a liberated representative of the weaker sex, who can take the first step on her own and in the future is able to be more proactive than a young man, including in matters of sexual relations, will not cause him anything but approval and admiration.
On the other hand, it is important that a woman's emancipation is precisely the result of her conscious choice, and not the desire to be fashionable and modern. Sometimes a girl starts out to be like someone else; Unfortunately, in the end, choosing such a model of behavior that does not come from the heart does not bring her anything but disappointment. The same can be said about those women who, having become disillusioned with men, try to replace their real feelings with non-binding sexual relations. Behind the seeming self-confidence, bordering on bravado, they hide the fear that someone will hurt them, and even the thought that they are not worthy of love.
Women with a past
As for the opinions of men about sexually liberated women who do not see anything wrong with taking the initiative in relationships, they can be very different. No matter how modern and free in views a young man considers himself, in the overwhelming majority of cases, a woman's emancipation is for him a logical continuation of her rich sexual experience.
With a man, he may simply lose all interest in her, because the most important stage of the relationship - the conquest of the Beautiful Lady by a valiant knight - has been missed. A girl who is easy on relationships should not be surprised that many men will perceive her exclusively as a sexual object. Thus, for men, an emancipated sexually liberated girl is comfortable, but hardly most of them would like to see her as their wife and the mother of their children.
I do not know under what circumstances you are going to do this. You may have already invited her to visit. Or maybe you just want to know how to liberate a girl on a date so that it goes off with a bang.
If we consider any form of communication with her as a prelude to sex, then you need to act so that she has more attraction to you. This emotion will dominate her, and then any constraints and fears will simply evaporate.
Let's start with the platitudes ...
Be the bad guy
Have you ever wondered why the good ones fail?
It's simple: public opinion (including in the person of good guys) prevents girls from fully revealing themselves. Although by nature they are very depraved and liberated creatures.
To start feeling liberated, they need someone who is not afraid to accept them as such. And, of course, this someone is a bad guy who is ready to "go all out" himself, and even more so, will not blame her for any actions.
It may seem strange to you, but it really has a big impact on how you communicate with her. It is important for her to know that her relaxed behavior will be approved (which is almost impossible to achieve as a good guy).
Jokes, jokes, relaxed and slightly impudent behavior ... find the rest of the "parameters" and start using yourself.
Humor should be!
He will help you, even if you find it difficult to stick to the bad guy image.
Just learn to joke interestingly. If you don't have enough experience, borrow other people's jokes.
Start of the meeting
How you start a date has a huge impact on your date.
Any hitch at the beginning can be the beginning of the end.
There is a huge difference between the two situations:
- You immediately start to have an active conversation, joke, take her hand, lead her to a certain place and, in general, create some kind of action.
- Both of you feel embarrassed, start walking slowly somewhere, and you ask how she's doing or how her day went.
The first will make her more relaxed after 30 minutes. The second - will "kill" all your attempts to make her your girlfriend.
About the 30 minute rule
If it seems to you that you do not know how to liberate this particular girl, then it just seems to you.
Remember: regardless of the meeting place (street, cafe, your house), she needs some time to get used to (20-40 minutes).
Of course, this does not mean that now you, too, must be silent for this half hour and wait for her to be liberated herself. Act actively from the very beginning of the meeting, and do not expect an instant effect.
Alcohol with the right sauce
Alcohol liberates everyone. But if you just offer a drink, she will immediately understand what exactly you want from her.
So there must be a pretext. It may be your or her success in recent affairs, which cannot be ignored, "otherwise it will not happen again."
Or an offer to try some unusual cocktail. Ideally: it will be such a cocktail that few people have tried, and which has some kind of background (it will be necessary to tell it).
If you have not yet had time to bring her to your home, then plan your route in such a way that passing by a bar (preferably a very civilized bar, not a simple “pub”), you could say: “By the way, there is ... "and invite to drop in.
Accidental touches
Open touching a squeezed girl can easily provoke even more tightness. A toggle switch turns on in her head, hinting to her what exactly you want from her. Moreover, this happens even when you have already had a couple of dates.
Therefore, it is better to use "casual" touches.
At first, you just move her across the road, holding her hand. Then, sitting next to you, touch with your shoulder. Every time your hand moves in a certain direction, it may accidentally touch the girl for a very short time.
Then connect "quick" touches - literally for a couple of seconds. Here you can already afford to touch it more openly and not by accident, but remember that they must be “fast” (by 2-5 seconds). Again, this rightly exists so as not to provoke a backlash.
The more of these short touches you make, the faster you will induce the “correct” state in her.
If she is not in the mood, or everything should be in place!
If she is in a bad mood, and at the same time, you have not had sex yet, then your attempts to create romance can ruin everything. She will begin to feel a kind of obligation, and this will make her constrained.
The best option is tuning.
The bottom line is that first you adjust to her mood, talk to her on suitable topics, and slowly make the communication more lively and fun. Ideal: if you can completely change her state in this way.
It will do better than misplaced romance.
In general, everything is decided by the experience of communication with the opposite sex. I sincerely hope that you will develop the necessary skills as soon as possible, and that you will not think every time how to liberate the girl.
Interestingly, moderately experienced guys rarely encounter this problem. When they come on a date, they rarely meet with stiffness on the part of the girl. This means that the prehistory of communication (i.e. the very acquaintance and communication on the phone) is of great importance. Pay close attention to how you meet girls and how you communicate on the phone.
Perhaps a little foreplay in the form of a fun phone conversation can help make your date more lively and comfortable.
Woman in bed - it already sounds tempting and sexy. Samantha Bishez - a regular correspondent of the most respected magazine for men MAXIM. She is sure that a woman can fully enjoy a man and intimacy only if she tries to relax in bed. In our article we will consider the most effective ways that will make your intimate life bright, varied and will help you. Help your beloved open her soul, relax her body and release the hot tigress to freedom.
Lingerie woven from debauchery
Panties and bras decide everything, they can drive you crazy, give a girl self-confidence and even liberate her partner, because a man in love can also act uncertainly for the first time. Complexes interfere with choosing depraved underwear for a girl. She is afraid that the guy will consider her vulgar or cheeky and opts for classic cotton panties. It is enough to change the usual underwear for sexy, and self-esteem will skyrocket.
How a man can help: so, give her a set of the most shameless underwear. Just do it wisely. First, make sure that you have a long relationship with your loved one and she trusts you, otherwise you will only push her away.
Incinerating passion
Do not wait until you want unrestrained sex, awaken your passion, inflame your body to the limit. Perhaps you think that talking about the most interesting and porn movies will help her want you. However, things are not so simple for girls, and what suits you does not suit them. Women are not audials or visuals, they are kinesthetic, which means that touch will help them ignite the fire, and very, very much. To relax in bed, you must first take a shower with a sensual shower gel (for example, with patchouli oils and ylang-ylang) and begin to gently caress yourself all over the body, leaving the most secret places for dessert.
How a man can help: while the girl is basking in the shower, cheer up! Being asleep will not be good for your sex. She will soon come out to you and want to see a male who is about to throw himself, and not a tired man, peacefully sniffing on a pillow.
Top quality oral sex
For any man, oral sex is an unreal pleasure. This type of sex can liberate even the most shy partner. For a man to groan with pleasure, you need to find an approach to him and pay special attention to the organ of his pride. Unfortunately, this is impossible without errors. The main rule is not to cause unpleasant sensations and to introduce experiments gradually. A girl should try and change the technique in the process, get pleasure herself and observe the reaction of her beloved.
How a man can help: to liberate a girl in bed, she needs to be constantly praised and encouraged. Only in this way will she be able to fully open up and surrender herself to feeling. Don't be silent when it's painful or unpleasant. Just guide it with your hand, gently stroking your hair and neck.
Without unnecessary body movements
Men sometimes really lack impetuous sex, but they understand that in order to be liberated in bed, a girl needs to give the lion's share of caresses and tender words, and sometimes they don't want to wait so much. If possible, try to have sex quickly, pulling your pants down and aggressively doing your thing. Sometimes women really want it, but are afraid to admit it. If you act quickly, confidently, and at the same time accurately, she will appreciate it.
How a man can help: a woman will not be able to truly relax in bed if you suppress her initiative. As soon as she starts pestering in a rather extreme place, don't pretend to be a puritan, but pick up the idea.
Girl + girl
What can certainly liberate a girl in bed is experimenting with her own kind. Girls know what the female sex needs and how to do it in order to be good. For those who have a lot of prohibitions in their heads, it is worth trying to diversify their sex life with an artificial object. And if you've tried everything you can, have a threesome. Only for this you should not choose your permanent partner.
How a man can help: pay enough attention to each of the girls and remember to change condoms before each intercourse.
Tough as in the middle ages
Your girlfriend may enjoy spanking and aggressive sex. But here it is important not to overdo it, so that it does not cause a backlash. Medieval punishments are exciting and help you to become more liberated.
How a man can help: make it easier for your beloved and start to show your masculine essence yourself. After all, inside every man lives an indomitable male who is ready to possess his lady without a trace. Start a little, and if you hear groans of pleasure, make the game even harder. But do not insist, if the girl does not want this, perhaps she will look "50 shades of grey" and herself will offer to be used.
For a man, in order to be able to win over people, it is important to be able to liberate them. And in order to liberate a girl, you need to convince her of her own uniqueness, dissimilarity from others. How to liberate a girl? To do this, it is enough to adhere to a number of simple rules.
Get attention
You need first attract the girl's attention, concentrate it on your person. Think about what you are saying, do not then bring unrelated sentences to the interlocutor. Better to speak, as they say, rarely, but accurately. Practice your manner of speaking in advance, as well as the system of gestures, so that they are individual. This will help you stand out from the crowd of men.
Don't be smart
And in general, before striking up a conversation with a girl, it's better watch her for a while... Don't be too clever, you are not at a scientific symposium. Talk about topics that the other person understands... At first, these can be general topics that the fairer sex like to talk about (news, fashion, clothes), and then, when you get to know your interlocutor better, you will be able to communicate on other topics.
There are many jokes ...
Show your sense of humor carefully, do not constantly poison jokes, even if they are super funny. Just chat naturally, sometimes joke out of place, make the girl smile. If she does not hesitate to smile or even laugh when talking to you, then she liked you.
Don't rush things
If a girl gives you hints that you can continue to bond, don't fall for them.. Most likely, the interlocutor is just checking you., and if she sees that you are willing to respond to her hidden signals, she obviously will not be liberated, because she thinks that you are not a serious person.
Talk privately
It is always better to talk to a girl about something more or less serious in private.so that you are not disturbed by her friends or, accordingly, your friends. Yes, it will be more fun with them, but you hardly wanted to laugh with a girl, you are busy seducing her. During a conversation, do not strive to be as close to her as possible, it is too early to violate personal space, as this will damage the process of liberating the girl.
Thus, in order to attract a girl to you, communicate naturally, insert appropriate jokes from time to time. When she smiles in your presence, listening to you, it means that she definitely liked you. AND where there is sympathy, there is close to emancipation, because you are almost her own person for her. If this happens, you have a good chance of developing a friendly-romantic, and then serious relationship.
